If you start seeing a guy, thoughts on messaging other girls on his social media, asking about him to make sure he's not a fuckboy or LVM?

talaxia · 2019-12-28T22:26:33+00:00

i wouldn't, especially if you don't know them. they'll likely tell him and it could make you look stalky and obsessed

randomgirlimok · 2019-12-28T23:00:26+00:00

No! Only do your e-stalking in private lol

1Here4Bach · 2019-12-28T23:02:22+00:00

That’s weird. Since they’ve probably know him longer than you’ve known him, they’re very likely to go back and tell him that you’ve been snooping around. And it’s creepy to ask over social media.

Ms_Tilly · 2019-12-29T03:55:18+00:00

The women that would tell you the truth deleted and blocked him long ago. Now if he name drops ex's and says negative shit, feel free to hit them up. I did that WAY after the fact and the first thing the girl messaged me was RUN. She and I spoke at length about everything he put us through. It was fun to laugh about what a pos he is.

lachlensland · 2019-12-28T23:09:07+00:00

asking around doesn’t even guarantee you’ll get the truth. my friend did this and everyone said he was a good guy, but turned out he was just another fuckboy.

SaddleUpBucephalus · 2019-12-28T23:23:46+00:00

That's really weird. Better to keep your eyes open and observe how he is online and in person around his friends. Time will tell. Sure, you can ask the right questions when the right time comes, but messaging his friends through social media is pretty strange behaviour. Most of his friends would probably lie to cover his ass any way.

Give it time and keep your eyes and ears open.

2019-12-28T22:39:34+00:00

I'm guessing you have met him through OLD or randomly ? I wouldnt do it. If a girl I know nothing about would message me to ask me about a guy I know, Im not sure how Id respond. It would depend on my relationship with him.

That's why endogamy persists. IMO, it's always best to date someone in your circle, in order to vet him properly.

Title	If you start seeing a guy, thoughts on messaging other girls on his social media, asking about him to make sure he's not a fuckboy or LVM?
Author	tootsmydoots
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	December 28, 2019 10:08 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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