Why Do Men Put So Little Effort Into Serious Dating?

TheOGJammies · 2019-12-17T15:31:04+00:00

"So many men act like a girlfriend is just something they deserve, but have no concept of how they might improve the life of the women they’re with.

I remember, when I was breaking up with one of my exes years ago, he listed all the ways I made his life better when trying to convince me not to go. And I asked him, “but how do you think you make my life better?” and he was taken aback. “I don’t know,” he said. He’d never thought about it."

an0nny · 2019-12-17T15:41:57+00:00

Because they don't want to date -- they want a sex toy and a mommy.

TheOGJammies · 2019-12-17T16:05:38+00:00

But, especially with men, this energy feels so unidirectional. Women are frequently more reciprocative, but men often seem completely uninterested in helping me improve my life in any way. They often care about impressing me, by having nice shit, or looking good, or pulling in bank. But, they almost never take a look at my life and ask themselves “what is Emma missing, and how could I fill that role?”

Asking a man not to be a leech is asking a lot

riseaboveagain · 2019-12-17T16:37:48+00:00

They don’t put any effort into it if they don’t have to.

Men hope to find women who are doormats they can wipe their feet on. Thanks to a lifetime of societal and family conditioning, there are so many women who are okay with this, and are delighted to be “chosen” by low-value men

Thank whatever God you want that this sub exists to help women of all ages realize their worth, demand respect, and stop putting up with men’s BS 💜

themissdaydreamer · 2019-12-17T16:02:03+00:00

the amount of accuracy in this text is overwhelming!

Scotsburd · 2019-12-17T18:28:47+00:00

Because they think they want a doormat. Until they get one. Then they want a new doormat. What they actually want is someone they respect but are too idle to put in the work to get a HVW.

ritablueboys1 · 2019-12-18T00:07:10+00:00

Cause theyre asking me for low effort too lol. We match energy this way. You decide how we're gonna act🤷🏾‍♀️

Title	Why Do Men Put So Little Effort Into Serious Dating?
Author	mangocakeee
Upvotes	50
Comments	12
Date	December 17, 2019 3:30 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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