On my last post, I briefly touched on the concept of dating multiple men. I wanted to make a more dedicated post about it, because I think it’s such an important topic.

Date multiple men, so you can have more leverage to be able to keep a clear head and a pragmatic perspective of the value that each of those men bring into their dating interactions with you. And use this information to evaluate and decide which man would be the best for you to select for a relationship.

Now whenever people hear that a woman is dating multiple men, the first thought is to assume that she is sleeping with all of them. And I want to pay particular attention to this point because it is super important for your dating success.

Do not sleep with the men that you’re casually dating and assessing for potential relationship. I am giving you this advice, not only based on the fact that having sex with them gives them the impression that they do not need to be in a relationship with you in order to have sex with you, but some men use the guise of a potential relationship to get women to sleep with them. They are purposely vague about whether or not they want a relationship with you, often when they know deep down that they have no intention of actually making you their gf. They do this so that you can be fooled into thinking that as long as you’re patient and keep having sex with them, they’ll eventually make you their gf.

Newsflash ladies: This rarely ever works.

In fact, I would go as far as saying that it never works. And I’m sorry, but random luck is not enough for you to depend your love life on.

Date multiple men. Go on multiple dates with them. Flirt with them, tease them in order to show that you are sexually attracted to them and are willing to one day have sex with them, if they act right. Allow them to pay for you if they want to and do things to impress you to show that they’re serious about you. But refrain from having sex with them. I know this goes against the now mainstream advice of having sex with every guy you date in order to keep him, but I’ve found that the opposite is true.

If you wanted mainstream advice, there are many other subs and forums that would advice you otherwise. You’re free to go there. I’m not pro-casual sex. If you participate in casual sex, I’m not going to judge you. But your lifestyle is not in line with mine and I have found that it just does not work for me or for most women that I know. It also damages a lot of men too, but my focus is going to be more on what concerns and benefits you, ladies.

My advice is to date them but do not have sex with them until you have concrete evidence of their seriousness towards you. Seriousness as evidenced by the amount of time, money, effort and commitment that they invest in you. Respect your standards. If you find that you’re very horny and can’t stand it, invest in a good vibrator, or while you’re still dating others for a potential relationship, find just one reliable FWB that is more invested in pleasing you than in you pleasing him. That means 90-100% of your sexual encounters should involve you receiving oral. I’ve had sexual encounters where me receiving oral is all that happened, and that should be your main priority.

People will assume that you’re having sex with all the men you’re dating. What you’re actually doing with these men is none of their business and if people around you don’t believe that you’re not sleeping with them, then their doubts is really none of your concern.

Can you do all of this and still encounter men that won’t give you the relationship you want? Yes. But you’ll more than likely wean them out most of them and have the ones you want.