When is the right time to sleep with him?

MuffinSongs · 2019-10-02T23:14:31+00:00

Better they slow fade before sex, than after.

Honestly, just sleep with them if and when you feel comfortable. If they’re going to lose interest, you can’t stop that. It doesn’t matter what you do.

You don’t want to keep the f-bois and if you do actually find the right guy, he will let you take the lead because he will value you and care about your feelings. At least he better. If not, he’s the wrong fn guy.

bearded_dragonlady · 2019-10-02T23:42:23+00:00

Maybe don't bring up that you won't have sex with them unprompted. Wait until they make a move and explain that you like to take your time getting to know someone before doing stuff. I personally prefer a slow escalation, like first kissing (3rd-4th date), then next date 2nd base, then eventually 3rd base for a while. I don't get as attached if it's not PIV and it allows me to gauge our sexual compatibility while also testing him to see if he slow fades after a couple weeks.

If you aren't comfortable with that, then just don't have sex with them until ~6-7 dates in. Some of those guys will still slow fade, but the chances decrease when you wait. Many guys won't want to wait that long, but that just means they aren't a great fit for you. Usually if they love your personality and character, they don't mind waiting extra. Just remember to date multiple guys so you don't care as much about the slow fades. Always be communicating with other guys right before and after you first have sex with a guy.

AverageToHot · 2019-10-02T23:13:42+00:00

If a man pulls away after the 3rd or 4th date, he wasn’t that into you in the first place. The right man is willing to wait and won’t be dissuaded by the lack of sex because there are a lot more things about you that he finds worth it.

Only have sex when you’re exclusive with someone and you know for sure that they are devoted to you. You don’t need to tell guys that you won’t sleep with them on the first date, just straight up tell them that you only have sex once you’re in an exclusive RELATIONSHIP with someone. Point blank just be blunt with them.

Don’t be discouraged if men pull away after the 3rd or 4th date! It’s actually a good sign because the trash are taking themselves out, which will make more space in your life for more qualified men. Don’t be afraid of men nexting you for not giving it up – they were only looking for easy sex in the first place and they will never commit to you. So overall, it’s actually a win for you!

Don’t believe this total myth that you have to sleep with a man before you get a commitment. It’s total bullshit. You can get a commitment from a man before you end up having sex with him. The right man WILL wait.

666manhater666 · 2019-10-03T02:32:04+00:00

You can show you’re sexually interested without having sex. That would be my approach until I was ready if I were you. Like soft touches, maybe ask to cuddle or do it. You can show you’re interested while taking it slow.

2019-10-03T00:18:23+00:00

Definitely don’t force yourself to do anything you don’t want.

That being said, it’s like you put sex as one path and zero sexuality for the foreseeable future as the other. It’s going to discourage them because men are motivated by sex as a rule, so if you desexualise yourself upfront they’ll give up. I know it’s dumb but it’s how they think.

If you’re actually interested and you feel like it there is nothing stopping you from just flirting. You can test them this way, until you have the confirmation you need to go further. Men know to lie about wanting a relationship to get sex, you can do it the other way around.

ino_y · 2019-10-03T02:22:59+00:00

Dont date strangers.

Join meetups and social groups, meet men through work, friends and family, and observe them for a month. Upgrade them to acquaintance, casual friend, good friend. Pick from your pool of good friends. You should know someone for 3 months before going on one date, or upgrading them to 'romantic interest'.

It's not about "making them wait", it's about getting to know their character in a wide variety of situations and interactions with others. Building trust takes time.

Jumping into bed with strangers is working well for none of us.

Platten69 · 2019-10-06T06:09:02+00:00

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Title	When is the right time to sleep with him?
Author	Platten69
Upvotes	25
Comments	15
Date	October 2, 2019 10:52 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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