I AM TIRED of the being the FAT GIRL (Using this post so people can add resources)

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-04-08T00:00:30+00:00

Hey hey! Former fat girl here! I went from obese to normal BMI in about 1 year. What worked for me was being completely and totally brutally honest with myself and what I was eating. Use a tracking app like Loseit or Happyscale. I’d recommend getting a digital kitchen scale too to weigh your portions. Track everything. The creamer in your coffee. Those pieces of candy you forgot you ate. It’s a pain, but it necessary to train your brain to recognize what an appropriate serving size is. I know my view was completely skewed.

I can’t really help you with the emotional side as that’s not why I got fat. I just really love food and hate sweating. But it really does come down to calories in, calories out. Just be honest, eat a less and trust the process over a long time (no quick-fix crash diets!). Oh, and try not to drink your calories. I think that’s a huge pitfall for so many.

Goddess422 · 2020-04-08T00:02:04+00:00

You are lonely and you don't exercise enough. The first solution that comes to my mind would be to join a local fitness group (which I know is difficult right now haha). Join a free local Zumba class, or a sports-related exercise group. I recommend volleyball, basketball, or running/swimming along with Zumba, since in my experience lots of women enjoy those activities, and that's where I've met most of my close girlfriends when I moved to a new city. It'll help you build an acquaintance circle that hopefully evolves into friends, may help with better exposure to eligible bachelors, and most importantly you're surrounding yourself with individuals there to have fun and stay in shape, and that will hopefully be a motivating factor for you.

I would recommend downloading and creating an account on the Meetup app. See what fitness or sports groups you would like to join. It's a step in the right direction for when the pandemic situation settles down.

As for right now, since you're hunkered down, just keep walking. If you can, start jogging too. But the diet has to change. Since I am a little more sedentary too right now, I've cut out a lot of my favorite calorie rich snacks. I've gone from two and a half meals a day to just two (I used to have a heavy breakfast, heavy lunch, and tea and bread for dinner. Now I have a very light breakfast and the rest of the meals are the same). I drink lots of water throughout the day which usually helps curb an unnecessary urge to snack. I guess I'd recommend just starting to trim down your meals if possible.

modernmedusaa · 2020-04-08T00:16:00+00:00

I'm not sure what the point of this post is, it's a bit lazy if I am honest. This post is better suited to femalelevelupstrategy but I'll fling you some recommendations anyway.

Is the weight issue stemming from mental health issues as a distraction? Because it may be helpful to get in therapy and buy a book called 'the happy kitchen' which gives nutrition advice and recipes on how to manage your moods. When your mood improves, you won't turn to quick-fix comfort foods as much and takeaways etc.

There are tons of free fitness videos on youtube, and advice on how to lose weight. Google is your friend for nutrition / diet advice etc. Order some healthy eating books or watch some youtube videos for recipe ideas- you can still eat healthy without losing the flavour or full feeling.

https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/15-incredibly-filling-foods

Join a local fitness or running / hiking/dancing/ climbing club for motivation.

Stay away from those crazy diet pills and weightloss teas as they're just a complete con and shortcut- you'll just pile the weight straight back on because you haven't addressed the mental habit. There is no shortcut to losing weight, it takes discipline, perseverance and routine but once you get going you'll be fine. You'll have to get your diet straight first and reduce portions/ replace snacks with healthier stuff that still tastes decent. For example, when you're feeling hungry- snack on yogurt and granola or something.

Definitely cut out the takeaways and processed food. Cakes, chocolate, biscuits, pizza etc they are full of preservatives and crap that makes you feel lazy and slumped, which will make you have a lack of motivation to exercise. Then for weekly treats, you can turn to sweeter 'filling' home made recipes/snacks that are still healthy.

I'd also recommend you join a cooking subscription service, for ideas on healthy meals. Some have 'less than 400 calories' options and stuff like that. Check if there's a local meal prep service in your area that can deliver- that's what the gym bunnies use, then they create their own batches.

I also have a fitbit tracker, which may benefit you, so you can keep track of your daily steps. But I think the gym really helps keeping you on track & putting your diet in perspective, because when you step on the treadmill, you will realise that 500 calorie chocolate bar yday was not worth the time it took to burn it off lol!

I've heard a lot of good things about 'mindful eating' from this instagrammer I follow who used to have an eating disorder (she had the opposite problem- eating too little)

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Mindful-Eating-Overeating-Unhealthy-Relationships/dp/1590305310

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1509893067/ref=sspa_dk_detail_3?psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUFIVFBFRENWVEpPR0EmZW5jcnlwdGVkSWQ9QTA0MDEyMTEzM1RDSkYzOUZGTkdOJmVuY3J5cHRlZEFkSWQ9QTAxNDc3MjhKOTdXTEZQS0RCSVImd2lkZ2V0TmFtZT1zcF9kZXRhaWwmYWN0aW9uPWNsaWNrUmVkaXJlY3QmZG9Ob3RMb2dDbGljaz10cnVl

There's loads on google if you look. But I'll be honest, losing weight largely starts with your diet, and then once you've shifted the extra weight you'll need to get in the gym to tone up or you could get a personal trainer that will set you a plan.

Lots of people are feeling lonely and uneasy right now, it's normal. Don't beat yourself up

femmmme · 2020-04-08T00:23:43+00:00

Regardless of weight or current appearance, that ball is still in your court. You have something that men want.

There’s nothing that bruises a LVM’s ego like rejection from a woman that he felt entitled to, so knock yourself out doing it whilst you get yourself into a better place physically and mentally. Rooting for you (:

thepastamancer · 2020-04-08T00:18:31+00:00

Heres what helped me:

Volume eating and meal prepping
Getting an accurate idea of what proper serving sizes are by spending a period of time calorie counting and weighing and measuring my food
Finding forms of exercise I like and sticking with them
No liquid calories and limited junk/fast food
Finding alternative ways to self sooth instead of eating

Title	I AM TIRED of the being the FAT GIRL (Using this post so people can add resources)
Author	cannedboelyn
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Date	April 7, 2020 11:40 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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