This is a story about why PickMeisha will NEVER be accepted by HVM. It's a story that recently happened in my family, that made me think about how Pickme's ruin their own lives with their mindset.

My husband has 3 brothers, they are older than him. I will tell you about F, his oldest brother, who is 32 now. F has been with his ex-gf for over 11 years. He proposed to her, but she wasn't interested in marriage. She got sick when I joined the family and was bedridden. F took care of her 24/7, while having no social life at all. She was at risk of dying and he didn't leave her side until she was better. When she was healthy again, F started to talk about marriage again and that he would prefer to be married to her, also thinking about having children in the next ~5 years. It scared her away and she just packed her things up and left. My BIL was heartbroken about it, but he never talked ill about her.

To get over this hard time, F and his brother D spent alot of time together. D is married with 3 children, a great father and husband who loves his family more than anything else.

After some time F is back on track and decides to start meeting new women again. A year has passed since his ex left and he is ready to find someone he really likes.

F meets PickMeisha who seems to be cool and down to earth to him. He isn't entirely sure about her yet, but he gives her a chance and after some months the family gets to know her.

PickMeisha tries hard to get sympathy from all of us. She overshares about her childhood trauma and all the men who never really loved her. When I met her, I immediately felt disgusted. She basically did EVERYTHING to be liked. When F said something controversial, she agreed with him, eventhough she criticised this mindset prior when she was talking to other family members.

It was hard to watch and I didn't enjoy being near her. Everyone in the family felt the same.

So my nephew's birthday comes up and F brings PickMeisha along. She is basically kissing his ass all the time and he is visibly uncomfortable. D, who silently watched this, starts to ask PickMeisha questions about how she thinks the future with F will look like and if she's always that passive in a relationship. PickMeisha starts crying and leaves the party. F follows.

D then says words I will never forget:

"Why do those women think that they have to agree on anything a man says?! It's disgusting. Men need boundaries and they need someone who will tell them if they do something wrong. If someone can't tell your upfront about what they think, they aren't a partner, they are an enemy"

HVM don't want someone who kisses their ass and worships the ground they walk on. They want someone who can be honest with them. On the same level.

So F broke up with PickMeisha the same evening. He told me that he felt uncomfortable with someone who always agreed and never had an opinion on their own.

PickMeisha now "fights for her love" and tries to get F back. She literally sends him flowers and got him expensive shoes for Christmas. My SIL called her out on this, but she just starts crying and continues her little shitshow. F is about to go to the police because he feels harassed.

I am still disgusted about how a woman can sink that low. Being a Pickme will NEVER benefit anyone but LVM. LVM are the only ones who will be happy with PickMeisha and her likes, because they don't want someone on their level. They don't want honesty, they rather have someone who strokes their egos.