Overstating the obvious: if she's truly into you, sex happens. If not, it doesn't?

IXseed · 2020-06-20T13:43:06+00:00

Pretty much. If she's down you get the pussy. If she's not you get an excuse. Can you change a no to a yes? Sometimes. But your time is better spent elsewhere.

Psychological_Radish · 2020-06-20T12:19:10+00:00

First question: anyone ever been in a situation like this.... you take her out all the time, she has a great time, but she never wants to fuck you?

Yep. Ashamed to say that I dated a girl for three solid months and she never once touched my dick. I never said anything to her about it, thinking that she should want to fuck me, not just because I "pressured" her into it or whatever. Unsurprisingly she dumped me because 'we didn't have a connection'...the only time I've been ever been dumped. That really caused me to question a lot of my beliefs about girls, sex, and relationships, eventually leading me here.

If a girl is truly into you, she'll fuck you. If not, she won't.

Yes. Genuine desire, as Rollo calls it.

anyone else here try to screen girls by going for it ASAP? And if she fucks, she gets more of my time and attention... and if she doesn't she won't?

I wouldn't call it screening necessarily. I go for sex on the first date because that's what I want. If all guys were honest with themselves, they would do the same, because no hot blooded male ever said the words "I would rather fuck her later."

The girl I mentioned was the last straw in a string of failed romances where I never got laid out of the interaction. At that point I just told myself "you know what? Fuck this. The next girl I meet, I'm just going to be direct and bang the shit out of her like all those 'asshole' guys would." And that's exactly what I did. Ironically I ended up dating that girl for 1.5 years. That was before I even discovered TRP, but coming here confirmed everything I suspected before.

Alzatorus · 2020-06-20T12:28:33+00:00

Depends what you're looking for. If it's plates then a girl that fucks on call is obviously beneficial. If you're considering a FWB or more then a ho is a no-go 😂. I've found that those that fuck quickly are often insecure, needy, have higher risk of cheating if you date them (due to the aforementioned traits) and are a pain in the ass with the constant shit tests. Those girls stay as plates with an eventual soft next.

For your last question, I don't believe that it's quite as black and white as "in to you = sex" - speaking from my own experience, it comes down to how you treat sex. If you put pressure on it then you're not going to get laid as she will feel like and eventually convince herself that she's doing you a favour and it's not for her. Over the past three years I've only ever been turned down twice. The first time was the standard "I'm too tired" to which I replied "thank god, honestly, I was only going there because I thought you wanted to" ..... Not even 10 mins later she was on top of me, unsolicited.... 😂 the second time was the standard "I'm not in the mood" to which I gave her the most flat out 'wtf' stare and said "what's wrong, are you I'll? I'm fucking hot, so you must be ill." 😂 She wanted to 'just cuddle' as in lay down and spoon, so I thought 'nah' and started to study while letting her lay across me while I read. Had sex in the morning. There are also times I will say (as an FYI and unsolicited) "I'm not in the mood tonight" which will also set you apart from what she's used to.

I honestly think it comes down to how you handle sex and the shit tests surrounding it. Don't put pressure on it. Be playful and DNGAF either way. Sex will then be on tap. It's the guys that get in a piss about her saying no that enable her to do so. Flip the dynamic on her constantly so that she's not the one leading the sexual side of whatever you've got going on. Just my input and what has worked well for me. Because I'm so playful and light-hearted with the topic, there are times Ive just playfully slapped a girl's ass that I'm messing with and told her to get in bed 😂

319Skew · 2020-06-20T15:05:55+00:00

No. If there's no passion it's over for her.
A woman you just met won't fuck if she's not into you but may fuck if nothing better shows up. A woman you're already seeing will throw a BJ or pity sex your way. To keep you around.
I try to fuck on the first date. It helps me understand what her sexuality is like and her interest. I also go in with no expectation of sex but by date 3 if there's no sex then I just bail.

Kabuki431 · 2020-06-20T15:06:15+00:00

If it's a "date" i make it clear it's gonna be wine dine and 69. No free meal ticket here

acoltismypassport · 2020-06-20T14:33:36+00:00

My opinion has always been the following: unless she's injured, or is recovering from a health condition, sick, or otherwise immobilised (even, say, from her period,) then sex shouldn't ever be something she denies you.

I can literally only recall one incidence when a girl rejected me for sex outright, and that was my first relationship (pre-'TRP') when I was 19. Has never happened since, not even once.

Men and women are not that different. Ask yourself: if you were in good health and physically had the time, why would you NOT fuck your girl?

slip-down · 2020-06-20T18:44:57+00:00

Yes.

aesky · 2020-06-20T15:55:55+00:00

stop using sex for validation

peachez200 · 2020-06-20T18:22:16+00:00

Maybe you were just bad at sex bro

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2020-06-20T23:41:23+00:00

In my experience, if your dick isn't inside her at some point during a first date, you're not seeing her again. And even then not for sure

Title	Overstating the obvious: if she's truly into you, sex happens. If not, it doesn't?
Author	krunchtimer
Upvotes	59
Comments	33
Date	June 20, 2020 11:55 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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