Looking at other women

OrchidLion · 2020-06-22T06:22:34+00:00

Not about looking, but its related.

I went out with someone who on the first date tried to triangulate and tell me out of the blue that he's also talking to someone 5-6 years younger than me, and how younger is better. I told him "ok go and date her then" and he immediately backtracks and says how Im cuter.

There was no second date.

He asked me to explain why i didnt want to date him and where he went wrong. As if Im gonna help a male develop his game so he can manipulate better next time. Dont think so.

2020-06-22T08:15:49+00:00

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Saitschik · 2020-06-22T08:31:29+00:00

My tolerance level is zero. I point out once, that I don't like to be disrespected and don't want a creep at my side.

If it happens again the relationship is over.

circescircus · 2020-06-22T13:28:19+00:00

When I was single, I noticed partnered men looking at me while their partner/wives were next to them. Sometimes they had kids, sometimes their partner was pregnant. It made me feel so sorry for their wives and their kids. I once sat on a flight with a woman and her 3 kids-- she was such a good mom. She had packed healthy meals and snacks for them, she was talking to them and playing with them, she had them do homework as well and was helping them finish their math homework. When I was getting off the plane, I saw her husband picking her and his kids up, he stared at me (I didn't look his way after noticing the woman and kids again, but I could feel his eyes following) and felt so bad for his wife. So it's not like I'm fucking looking or checking out married men or men with kids, they just stare at women while they're out with their family. Utterly shameless.

On "dates" where I met the guy online, my date would check out/scan the room for women maybe 60-70% of the time. Never happened on a date where I met the guy in real life. My husband never did this either.

I'm not unreasonable, I can understand if a guy glances if a woman walks by looking like Jessica Rabbit, but all of these guys were actively scanning and going out of their way to look.

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-06-22T06:47:51+00:00

I honestly don’t know since I’ve never experienced this... and I can’t imagine what if.

But an acquaintance said that once her situationship “not a boyfriend” checked out a woman in front of her and told her he would like to fuck that woman. And my acquaintance only acted more pickme towards him after that 🤷🏻‍♀️

Chantelmorris345 · 2020-06-22T07:29:15+00:00

Men like that are so disrespectful like if you that bold to do that in my face then i don’t want nothing to do with you. Like i understand your human your going to find other women attractive but at least have some decency to not rub it in my face tf! Ughhh i hate when i go to the store and see married men checking me out right in front of their wives like do you have any respect ? Gesh🥴

NubianQueen101 · 2020-06-22T08:33:01+00:00

My husband kept checking out attractive women when we went out while at the same time demanding me to be covered head to toe.

I told him once, it is disrespectful and unislamic to do so. He gave me all the excuses that it just happens automatically bla bla

The second time he did it I made sure to let him know that if he is going to stare at attractive women then I am going to stare at attractive men as well. There are so many handsome good looking men out in the streets that I could be drooling at if I didn't respect you.

Unlikely-Marzipan · 2020-06-22T12:59:39+00:00

I consider it a lack of manners and good manners are a big deal to me. Anyone who can not keep composure around someone they find attractive isn’t grown up enough for me.

_tinyimp · 2020-06-24T01:57:20+00:00

I was in Vegas last summer with my ex. It was for a wedding and his friends tagged along. One of them brought their girlfriend who was the whole enchilada- tall, beautiful red hair and could speak German. I knew she was his type because he always talked about how he preferred red hair and they are all renfest nerds so German is pretty cool. Anyways he was checking her out the whole time, mirroring her body language, and walking with her instead of me even though I barely know anyone else and was terrified in Vegas for the first time (I even got sexually harassed when he left me alone at one point). They even got in an Uber together after walking and talking for like 10 minutes and I trailed behind like a dog! I was mortified and called him out back at the apartment and he denied it but I told him I’m not STUPID and body language tells all. The whole trip was a disaster and he did much worse things such as yelling at me in the airport and obviously I ended it after the trip. Thank god his family paid for everything 😭

honeymilkandgold · 2020-06-22T14:40:48+00:00

honestly, this happened to me once. I didn't realize it was happening at the moment. I told the guy I wanted a surprise and I didn't want him to come empty handed. A bit bold, but I don't waste my time anymore with men who can't show me they are about me.

So, we met. I realized he brought nothing. I was disappointed and thought maybe he had it in his car(yeah, don't give men excuses ever). We get to the restaurant. Apparently he knows the waitress? He tells me 'I am going to give her a surprise.' he says, while intently staring at her and holding a bill as a tip before she served us. I said, what is that for? He says, I come here often and next time, when I come and it's busy I want her to serve my table first. I was like ...ok..baffled. -__-

She was a nice girl and she even kept looking at me while ordering. Let me tell you when I ordered the most expensive ice cream to get back at him and just sat there and ignored him while I ate it.

I realize he was triangulating me with her because I was dressed really nice and he was trying to neg me and push me down a peg.

FDS way to react would be to just excuse myself, go to the washroom and bail.

Petty me decided to continue going on dates with him to get him to show me the city(I moved to a new city alone and needed help) and continue ordering food at his expense since I figured out his game pretty quick.

tumadre22 · 2020-06-22T19:06:21+00:00

Ngl (and don't call me "pick me" over this), it's something that doesn't faze me. I do it too whenever I see a hot guy. He doesn't care either. He does it, I do it. It's only fair. We are humans. We have eyes. We are going to look.

Title	Looking at other women
Author	Unlikely-Marzipan
Upvotes	42
Comments	39
Date	June 21, 2020 11:49 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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