Childhood "friend" of LTR

rpthrowaway1104 · 2020-07-17T04:06:09+00:00

Ehh I mean is mark an orbiter or...? Like usually you can take one look at a dude and know whether or not they are competition.

Dude yes to the last part. Wtf. You’re supposed to say he’s cute and seems really nice etc etc so that she doesn’t get the impression you feel threatened. Might have already planted the notion that mark is attractive when she never thought of him that way before you started showing your anxiety over it.

Irene_9 · 2020-07-17T06:10:40+00:00

It is uncertain if Mark is an alpha or a beta.

If Mark is an alpha:

If your girlfriend actually likes you, she will stop talking to Mark.
If your girlfriend is still messing with Mark, that means either she doesn't like you, or she has behavior problems.

If Mark is a beta:

Whatever. Ask your girlfriend to ask Mark to order and pay for food deliveries when you are staying overnight at your girlfriend's place.

mksu911 · 2020-07-17T06:57:03+00:00

Seems like you're one of the girlfriends too if you haven't fucked her

jusssay · 2020-07-17T03:51:04+00:00

"Apparently..?" Clearly it's not that apparent. If her notch count is zero, then she can not be your LTR.

Unless she isn't counting your dick, in which case, she definitely isn't your LTR...

cydestiny · 2020-07-17T03:52:32+00:00

Yes. You are stuck in this because she's your only option. Whatever you do is going to be rationalize by her as she knows that you need her more than she needs you.

I don't know you and Mark but from the interaction, it seems like you are the beta provider and Mark is the Alpha that she wants to (or already) bang. Go ahead and confront her and see your relationship shattered into pieces.

Plates are the way out.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2020-07-17T04:03:50+00:00

Every time the LTR mentions this Mark guy I repeatedly demean him by making jokes insinuating he is gay, etc. I think it's funny, but is this making me look like a beta?

Yes. Youre just validating her reasons for keeping him around. Also sleeping in same tent together come on man.

Frenchie1001 · 2020-07-17T09:17:15+00:00

Acting threatened so so beta

IXseed · 2020-07-17T08:09:29+00:00

You're dirty macking. You're throwing salt on Marks "game" and if your LTR got any actual attraction to him you gonna drive her right to his dick. That's why she keeps bringing it up because she knows it gets under your skin.

First of all, if your girl is chilling with another dude and it bothers you, you need to put a pin in it before you LTR her.

reddit_hypnosis · 2020-07-17T08:54:49+00:00

Im 35 and at this point in my life I almost want you to just tell her she needs to be with Mark. Someone in that group does. Genuinely, those fuckers have the best shot of having a good life. In a few months or years they will have been pumped and dumped by a few chads and all hope will be lost. And for what? They've made it this far. Mark needs to pick the one he gets along best, that seems like she likes him too, and thank his lucky stars he gets to pretend like hes in 1920 again.

PS, no girl that drinks is a virgin for more than 2 weeks.

DasWolffy · 2020-07-17T10:59:15+00:00

I wouldn't react to anything about Mark at all. Remain emotionless and reply with a "oh, that's nice", "ok", "uh huh", or some such whenever it's brought up. By putting him down to her you're letting her know you think he's a threat. By doing that, you're signalling that you're below his value level. She's going to eventually want to figure out what it is about Mark that has you on edge and end up fucking him at the very least.

adityamthr · 2020-07-17T05:25:07+00:00

Dude, come on, don't insult the 'MARK' guy. That's beta actually you are supposed to say that he seems nice and all.

I would say, just let it be, just maybe you should confront her, about getting too upclose and personal with her guy friends, which maybe you don't like. That's true alpha. If you don't like something you straight away say it, command it.

But give her some space, let her be with friends, don't try to take full control, don't act like a beta who gets insecure, so quickly.

alfred311 · 2020-07-17T10:25:05+00:00

Shes not yours it just your turn, maybe mark is an orbiter or they are casually fucking each other, AWALT. If you have an abundance mentality you wouldnt really care

ComplexProjection · 2020-07-17T08:36:30+00:00

Invite the friends to eat at your place. Talk with Mark.

Title	Childhood "friend" of LTR
Author	LurkingRedGuy
Upvotes	10
Comments	22
Date	July 17, 2020 3:44 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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