I am struggling to accept his job as an actor

RedPillWonder · 2017-07-12T04:50:02+00:00

I've thought on this before (when I was considering an acting career) and there's no easy answer.

At least not for me. I've considered it from different angles, and I'd ask different questions to try and get to the heart of the matter.

Sure, it could be entirely about trust. And that's on each of you. It's entirely possible you have a great guy, is trustworthy and you just need to work on you.

And I kept thinking about the "Well, it's just a job. And this is part of it" reply you hear from others.

OK. What if I ran for office, and hugging, kissing or flirting with women helped me get elected, would that be OK? Because, after all, it's part of the job or at least it could help me win votes.

Silly, you might say?

Setting aside ethical issues for a hypothetical moment, what if I was a doctor and the healing power of touch helped patients? Is lovingly embracing them for long periods OK? Kissing them? Just part of the job?

One might say, yes, but you don't have to do those things! You can run for office or come up with other career scenarios where you can be successful and not do those things.

Yes, but so can the OP's boyfriend. He could accept acting roles where he's not kissing hot women.

And the reply is usually, but he'll lose out on roles! I could lose out on votes that I might otherwise get if I ran for office. And all kinds of other hypothetical we could come up with.

We seem to put actor/actress in a different mindset when it comes to kissing another person because, hey, it's acting, right?!

It is. And some couples may manage this really well.

But again, when it comes down to it, it's not just "acting" it's doing a job. And what if the OP could be more successful in a career if she kissed other men as long as it was purely for work, she had no personal investment in it, etc. just like an an actor does for his/her work?

Would her bf be OK with this?

I'm asking sincere questions. I never did come up with good answers other than we're far more accepting of this with actors than we would be with people in other careers.

And that makes me question it. Because if it's OK for actors, why not for others? And if it's not OK for others, then we should question our views of why we feel it's acceptable for actors, beyond the "well duh, it's part of the job" line.

I wish the OP well. I want her relationship to work. But I'm leaning toward u/MetalDevils comment about potentially parting ways.

est-la-lune · 2017-07-12T00:35:37+00:00

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ElfFey · 2017-07-12T04:54:36+00:00

This is WHY actors tend to date other actors.

OP, you need to get over it, because every time you act jealous or nervous, he gets the message that you don't respect HIS decision -- a big no-no -- and worse, the decision you don't accept is his decision to be with you.

Look up Pierce Brosnan and Josh Holloway's wives -- not every actor wants a sexy actress as his match.

MissNissa · 2017-07-11T19:52:24+00:00

What exactly are you asking here?

[deleted] · 2017-07-13T13:11:16+00:00

remember that it won't last forever, that's the fun part :))), and you don't feel good get a new job where you feel good man, good luck, if the movie is shit cuz it does sound shit to me just don't do it, you never forced to do things that you don't want to do

Title	I am struggling to accept his job as an actor
Author	FioJan
Upvotes	10
Comments	19
Date	July 11, 2017 7:38 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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