Grief

UnblinkingLycopene · 2018-01-12T12:02:21+00:00

You told him to come too late. He offered to come earlier. Don't hold this against him--his work is important,

M23W0OH7FV2t · 2018-01-12T15:05:00+00:00

My condolences for your loss.

1stOfficer · 2018-01-12T16:00:54+00:00

Sorry to hear about your grandfather.

While I don’t believe in pulling the wife-card (or in your case the girlfriend-card), this would be one exception.

We as women sometimes speak covertly and our girlfriends are excellent at reading between the lines. Men however are more overt. I am not blaming you but you were wishy-washy in the beginning with your “please come, you don’t have to come, please come”. I automatically knew you wanted him there, however your words say that he had a choice. He chose wrong in your eyes but in his eyes he just made a choice that you gave him. So forgive him.

So in the future just plainly say “I need you here”. If he is worthy he will come, I promise.

amenartpop · 2018-01-13T01:07:13+00:00

and by the way i don't think his intention was to hurt you by that.

KittenLoves_ · 2018-01-12T13:06:54+00:00

First of all, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandfather. I know this is a tough time for you, and I hope that your friends, family, and boyfriend are all there for you to provide the kind of support you need.

Your boyfriend has hurt you, and I think the grief you're feeling only maximizes the feeling of being let down at this time. Take a bit of time, don't lash out at him because of your grief (it may make you want to do that). Remember that although you are hurting, other people can't put their lives on hold for you. It may seem unfair to you at this moment, but it is realistic. You can't put your life on hold for other people, either.

Try to think of the good things your boyfriend has done, and focus on how supportive he was before this point. Remember why you chose him and don't let the pain you're currently feeling manifest itself as anger against him or other people close to you.

How long have you two been together?

amenartpop · 2018-01-13T01:06:09+00:00

so where's the problem? Not everything works always perfectly as we want it. I don't think you should decide by that whether you can depend on him or not. You're too emotional

Redpilledcf · 2018-01-14T20:38:55+00:00

we talked and said he regrets going away for the weekend to a convention and not being there for me. He’s said he’s sorry and I said Fine. I think we just need to move past it and learn for if There’s a next time.

Redpilledcf · 2018-01-15T15:36:49+00:00

We talked again and he wanted me to know he really appreciates our relationship and he regretted us breaking up. He wanted me to know how much he loves me and the potential for our relationship.

Title	Grief
Author	Redpilledcf
Upvotes	4
Comments	16
Date	January 12, 2018 11:40 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/7pw1uo/grief/
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