Insecurity and body dysmorphia

oononuonus · 2018-06-13T15:39:15+00:00

I think he actually likes that you are different from the majority of women in his country.

Ok_Philosopher · 2018-06-13T16:52:45+00:00

I think it helps remembering that if you're in a LTR, then he's already just fine with the way you look. That doesn't mean you shouldn't put in any effort, but that you already meet his bench markers for physical attraction. Otherwise, he wouldn't be with you.

Also, beauty is subjective: By that, I mean some people think Angelina Jolie is the epitome of beauty while others prefer a more girl-next-door look. Some think Krysten Ritter is the most beautiful woman in the world while others have said she looks too much like Michael Jackson. And what I'm ultimately getting at is some men prefer Mediterranean beauty while others find Asians to be far preferable aesthetically.

As long as you're doing the best you can with what God gave you, then there is absolutely no point comparing. I know it can be hard, though... my marriage is interracial and I have no f'ing clue why my spouse didn't go for one of the many gorgeous women of his own race who put in a marriage proposal. I've met a few at weddings and often thought, "wow, you're so much prettier than me. WTF, dude, why'd you turn them down?" But then I just shrug my shoulders and think, "eh, lucky me."

bloobird08 · 2018-06-13T17:38:41+00:00

Lol I’m sorry but ectomorphic woman with big boobs and ass? That’s called surgery, in 99% of cases. Are you talking about Columbia or Brazil? Cause plastic surgery is HUGE there. It’s not their genetics, so don’t be so hard on yourself thinking you’re inferior by nature.

Everyone is insecure about their body in some way. Stop comparing yourself to insta models and spend more time in person with some real people. You’ll see everyone has flaws, even beautiful women do.

imdar3ald3al · 2018-06-14T18:01:06+00:00

6'4 230 lbs lean male here. Totally into several different body types and skin colors.

If you genuinely have his commitment you have nothing to worry about. Not every guy wants a size 0 swimsuit model or whatever is the beauty standard these days.

genuine_destructive · 2018-06-13T16:12:33+00:00

Yeah let me tell you, much to the dismay of racists / nationalists everywhere, we have a tendency to be sexually attracted to what looks different from ourselves.

In fact I’m really put off by women of my own country because they remind me of my sister / mother which quickly destroys any sexual attraction.

I’m latin and 10/10 the women that are most attracted to me are Scandinavians who think I look exotic. And vice versa, the women of my country absolutely love Nordic looking men.

Also for what it’s worth, according to recent studies of attraction (believe it was based on tinder swiping in the US) - men find Asian women the most attractive (probably has to do with an association with smallness, cuteness, etc).

In short (pun intended), embrace your difference and realize that it’s likely a large part of the reason he’s into you.

Wolfssenger · 2018-07-02T18:21:43+00:00

I think it's important to remember your boyfriend is not his culture, if that makes sense. His taste is his own, and I'm probably in a similar situation as him. I come from a Latino background where the ideal is medium height with extreme curves, but my preferred type is shorter and generally small framed. Your boyfriend finds you attractive, so long as you mantain yourself, you're fine there.

Now, family may be a different issue depending on how traditional they are. My family is a bit disappointed every time I bring an Asian girl home, but they are still good to her and generally will keep any ill will to themselves. This can be worse for others though. The best way to mitigate this is to be good to his family, bring gifts when you can and show good wifely traits. Unfortunately past that there isn't a ton to be done, but if you can maintain a serviceable relationship with them if they're that set in their ways, I'd count it as a win.

Title	Insecurity and body dysmorphia
Author	pisellipod
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	June 13, 2018 1:02 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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