Me and my ltr have our anniversary tonight. our plan was to go have dinner then come back to mine. from there, she was supposed to go out with her friends. just got a text saying she can only do dinner then is going to go to the friends to throw a goodbye party to one of her guy friends and another girl friend. she invited me to come but i said no because i dont really know anyone there and could care less about her guy friend’s goodbye party.

i wanted to have her come back to mine to fuck her, not just do dinner and have her go to this party. the fuck? should i just say i cant do tn? i don’t understand why she’d rather go to this party for a guy friend and a girl friend rather than celebrate and get railed tn. maybe i need to dread more. maybe i’ve been acting beta recently. i dont want to come off as a dick and butt hurt when canceling because she’d rather go to this party than our plans.

another thing - she’ll probably get drunk there, but seeing a lot of RP beliefs that getting drunk without the bf there is an immediate downgrade is making me consider this. i didn’t really care about this before but realize it really is important and a high trait to not be getting drunk without the bf there, how can i express this new boundary?