Why is nobody talking about how sexist the phrase “pick me girl” is

evenmoremeancomments · 2020-12-08T15:10:37+00:00

What is this "pick me girl" now?

Mein_Tarnaccount · 2020-12-08T19:14:52+00:00

Feminists are master projectionists.
In the age of streaming.

rodrigohernandez4477 · 2020-12-08T19:52:31+00:00

They just try to silence them and cut off women's support for boys and men's issues by saying that. Because it really undermines them that even lots of women support men against the abuses and issues they face, despite not being affected directly by the abuses and issues they face. It takes away the possibility to call MRA misogyny.

You don't have to try to appeal somebody to fight against the abuses towards a group. You can also do it because you think that it's the right thing, for ethical reasons, for your sons, fathers, brothers, male friends, boyfriends, etc.

You can also do it because you are more interested in this kind of activism rather than other types, e.g. Ecology, despite being in favour of the latter too.

mayrunal · 2020-12-09T03:16:49+00:00

literally any time i say anything even remotely MRA i get “but did you get picked, sis?” or some dumb shit like that. no, jessica, i’m not trying to get ‘male attention’, i just have basic fucking human empathy, which YOU seem to lack.

kingjohn1919 · 2020-12-08T20:03:51+00:00

Feminists are some of the biggest bigots and hypocrites in disguise

AmuseDeath · 2020-12-09T02:39:35+00:00

The thing with feminism is that their movement actually promotes sexism by assuming that all women believe in the same thing. They do this because they want people to equate criticizing feminism as being misogynistic (it's not). Feminists do not take into account that there are plenty of women who do not agree with them and label these women as having "internalized misogyny". Basically they claim that they are the only voice for women out there and anyone who disagrees with them is misogynistic. They are against women thinking for themselves. They bark about gender equality all day, yet they discourage a diversity of opinions. Feminism is the enemy of logic, reason and data. Women would be better served with the women's rights movement who focus on women's rights by using data and statistics, not the mumbo jumbo hocus pocus that feminists conjure in their bullshit cauldron.

ilovemacandcheese13 · 2020-12-09T00:32:37+00:00

“Dont slut shame me! It’s my life and I can do whatever I want!” “You’re such a pick me! Did he see this? You are so desperate for male attention aren’t you? You should respect yourself!”

What is the actual difference between “slut shaming” and calling someone a “Pick me girl”, at least with slut, it’s in your face but being called a pick me with that condescending tone fucking sucks

VeteranOfDepression · 2020-12-09T03:57:04+00:00

got called a pickme girl for supporting my male friend

ilovemacandcheese13 · 2020-12-16T19:41:31+00:00

"aww did he text you back yet 🥺🥺" literally every time some girl disagrees with them they call her a pick me

ChocolateTuxedo · 2020-12-08T20:00:49+00:00

I haven’t heard them use “Pick me girl” only “Pick me’s/PickMisha” and they didn’t only apply these terms to women or anti feminists. From what i saw they used it on anyone that looks or acts like they are desperate to be picked. Im sure you saw sad feminists jealous over women that are on men’s side getting picked by us 😏

mhandanna · 2020-12-09T01:39:17+00:00

feminism encourages gender roles.... it also uses incels to imply mens worth is based on sex with women.

11.4 How do some feminists reinforce aspects of gender traditionalism?

One of the biggest issues in feminism is “violence against women”. There are countless campaigns to end it or saying it’s “too common”, and feminist celebrity Emma Watson says “[i]t’s sad that we live in a society where women don’t feel safe”. But, as explained previously, women aren’t doing any worse in terms of violence victimization. In that context, the implication of this rhetoric is that women’s safety is more important than men’s. This clearly plays to traditionalist notions of chivalry that here help women.

(Women do feel less safe. From a 2011 article, “[w]omen fear crime at much higher levels than men, despite women being less likely to be crime victims”. But actual chance of victimization is more important than fear. Otherwise a middle class white person is worse off than a poor black person who’s probably less sheltered/fearful.)

Also, one frequently touted benefit of feminism for men is that it frees them from their gender roles like the stigma of crying. However, one go-to method for mocking or attacking men is to label them cry-babies, whiners, complainers, or man-children, labels that clearly have roots in shaming of male weakness and gender role non-compliance. This is evident in a common feminist “male tears” meme, which originatedwith the goal of making fun “of men who whine about how oppressed they are, how hard life is for them, while they still are privileged”. It’s been used by feminists Amanda Marcotte, Jessica Valenti (first picture), and Chelsea G. Summers (second picture).

MIT professor Scott Aaronson opened up on his blog about the psychological troubles he experienced after internalizing negative attitudes about male sexuality, which partly came from the portrayed connection between men and sexual assault in feminist literature and campaigns. He was clear he was still “97% on board” with feminism. Amanda Marcotte responded with an article called “MIT professor explains: The real oppression is having to learn to talk to women”, which included a “cry-baby” picture at the top. Another “cry-baby” attack comes from an article on the feminist gaming website The Mary Sue.

Another example of this general attitude is the #MasculinitySoFragile Twitter hashtag used to “call out and mock stereotypical male behaviors that align with the feminist concept of ‘toxic masculinity,’ which asserts that certain attributes of the Western machismo archetype can be self-detrimental to those who embrace them”. It’s like challenging beauty standards for women with #FemininitySoUgly; that doesn’t challenge those standards, it reinforces them.

Many feminist approaches to sexual assault and domestic violence reinforce gender traditionalism by downplaying or excluding anything outside of the “male perpetrator, female victim” paradigm. Mary P. Koss, an influential feminist voice on rape (and professor at the University of Arizona), says that it is “inappropriate” to say that men can be raped by women. She instead calls it “engaging in unwanted sexual intercourse with a woman” (“The Scope of Rape”, 1993, page 206). For domestic violence, the article “Beyond Duluth” by Johnna Rizza of the University of Montana School of Law describes the Duluth Model, an influential domestic violence prevention program in the United States that takes a “feminist psycho-educational approach” to the problem.

Practitioners using this model inform men that they most likely batter women to sustain a patriarchal society. The program promotes awareness of the vulnerability of women and children politically, economically, and socially.

According to Rizza, the Duluth Model is the most commonly state-mandated model of intervention, and the only statutorily acceptable treatment model in some states.

source: https://becauseits2015.wordpress.com/2016/08/06/a-non-feminist-faq/

jakethegreatwhite · 2020-12-08T18:56:49+00:00

What's wrong with a chick who isn't a slut trying to get a high value man, women are the biggest enemy of other women.

e874yn094eyhu90 · 2020-12-08T22:32:03+00:00

Okay, I agree with this meme, they are being hypocrites, 100%. BUT!! Look at it another way...

There are now SO many women who just look at feminism with such disdain that they're actually becoming a PROBLEM for feminists! Feminists are having to deal with them now by thinking up ways to invalidate them. It's WONDERFUL.

garvcrazy · 2020-12-09T04:52:23+00:00

Unfortunately, they don't see why guys pick those girls over them. If only they had a good eyesight they'd know guys will only pick girls who don't frikkin hate them for having more testosterone.

username2136 · 2020-12-09T06:21:58+00:00

Being a "pick me girl" must be terrifying because you decided to defy a group of people who aren't afraid to do stalk you, reveal all of your secrets and even try to get you fired from your job.

Then again, the same thing happens to a anyone who decides to stand up to a feminist on Facebook.

DenomyYT · 2020-12-10T09:59:24+00:00

A “Pick me girl” is a girl who puts down other woman and shames them for being “girly” and “slutty”. She might call herself “not like other girls uwu x3”. She will most likely shame girls for being sexually active, smoke, or do drugs, but support men through it cuz “AWWW he’s just a bad boy :3333”

HottieShreky · 2020-12-11T02:59:10+00:00

pick me girls are just girls who make other girls feel bad for being girly, heres a video that i thought explained the meaning https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1w2zaVbWpEQ

nameymcnameyboy · 2021-01-01T03:04:54+00:00

A pick me girl is a woman who puts down other women for male approval. They're not "anti-feminists". Theyre the kind of girls to say other girls are sluts and she is better. Its like a nlog that specifically puts other women down

ConcernedRobot · 2020-12-08T22:30:52+00:00

I haven't talked about it because I've never heard it. Is that a common thing?

Why is nobody talking about how sexist the phrase “pick me girl” is

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Title	Why is nobody talking about how sexist the phrase “pick me girl” is
Author	ilovemacandcheese13
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Date	December 8, 2020 2:45 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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