https://www.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/nlbkiw/not_ready_for_remarriage_help/

TLDR: Guy is recently divorced and has kids. New GF of less than a yr is pressing for marriage and has issued the Ultimatum, marriage or it's over. Now to most of us this would be a very clear indication of her bad character and we would dump her immediately, but this guy is obv on the fence (pussywhipped).

I have a GF, who doesn't live with me, and I told her right off the bat that marriage was a no-go area for discussion and that we would NEVER live together. I also said that she was free to leave at any point if she didn't agree with that, but I would not change my mind and that any nagging, hinting or "shaming" (ie publically mentioning me not wanting to marry her in front of friends/family etc) on the topics of marriage or cohabitation would signal the instant end of the relationship. I made it 100% clear that as a divorcee myself I'd rather shoot myself in the head than go through that again. To her credit I think she understood and hasn't slipped up yet, but if she ever does...it'll be over immediately. I won't be guilted, shamed or nagged into doing something I know is VERY dangerous for men just so a woman can get her way...NO FUCKING WAY.