As working in a male dominant field, I have seen very few women, most of them being isolated and feeling insecure, including myself. I have seen many men around them. Most of them are LVMs, downright harassing towards women. Also I have seen several of them look *woke*.

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Now, this is the point. Many of the *woke* men prey on the insecurities. They approach women as if they are *woke* and pretend to help. Perhaps they do help a little bit in the beginning, but then they prey on the isolation and the insecurity of women in a male dominant field. They start gaslighting and manipulating on women. Many of us will think think at first that they are HVM and truly helping us, but many times it's just a type of manipulation. Many of them learned to be *woke* by words and they don't really get how it is to be a female in a male dominant society.

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This is my personal experience and I have observed many of us falling in that way. Several of my friends fell in this way and they are more and more isolated than ever. It's really hard to notice this when we are isolated and feeling insecure. I feel desperate to get help in a male dominant competitive fields but had not been aware of dynamics totally. Lessons learned through a hard way to keep my personal boundaries and seek supports and bonds from other sisters in the field, not from *woke* men.

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If men approaches you lecturing *feminism*, *equality*, *discrimination* etc, take that with grain of salt. They are not the ones who experienced those directly, and learned from others or from the texts. They will use those words to lure females.

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p.s. This is my first post on FDS. LMK if I need to correct anything. Oh btw, just going through the FDS handbooks and glossary was poweful and informative.