Pill on the counter... Glass of water staring me in the face

WaGGuM · 2013-11-11T19:57:40+00:00

Dated for a year and a half, until she turned into a high school senior so I guess it was "YOLO" time and dumped me for the school lacrosse jock.

RP truth: For women, it's always "YOLO" time. It's limited only by the effects of the wall on attractive men's perception of her attractiveness.

I have had 5 mates in my life she has had some ridiculous number

I don't mind that.

and made the drunken mistake of flat out saying I wasn't "her best".

I do mind that. You not being her first choice will make her resent you and she'll always have doubts about the one that got away. Woman, unlike men, tend to judge their SOs by the emotions they bring out in them rather than the quality of their SO.

[I] want the BP life to work since that's what I fought for during my cancer battle.

No, you fought to stay alive and experience the world. You want to make it enjoyable for yourself, not enjoyable for others at your own expense.

WaGGuM · 2013-11-11T20:02:48+00:00

It's always a mistake to depend on another person, their actions, or their words for your own personal happiness. It doesn't matter if this person is your spouse, love of your life, etc. It's exactly like a drug addiction. You must learn to be happy without another person to appreciate the relationship, which is in any case, like all things, including your own life, as you very well know, impermanent and fragile. I mean, you survived cancer, but many people die of it, and yet, you're not happy because of the fickle attentions of a woman?

I think you are on the right track with doing what makes you feel happy. Hit on other women all you like. Your GF may take you more seriously, when faced with the possibility of you running off with someone else. There IS always someone else. There's no point on dwelling on one individual person.

I wouldn't let anything she says about the sex bother you.

Archwinger · 2013-11-11T20:51:37+00:00

Welcome to The Red Pill.

"You're not the best guy I've been with" is code for "You're the chump I'm with right now for validation and security until I find someone better."

You don't need us or the sidebar materials or anybody else to tell you that. You know that. That's why it bothers you so much.

You've beaten cancer, and you're going to let some cum dumpster slut with an untold number of partners in her past shit all over you? Given everything you know and have experienced from women in the past? Really?

The opportunity to next this woman immediately after her statement has passed, but your best move now is to downgrade her to fuck-buddy status. Fuck her repeatedly, go out and date other women, fuck them repeatedly, work out as much as your health will let you, develop your career and a bunch of constructive hobbies, become a badass valuable man, and never define yourself by women again. People die from cancer left and right, and if you waste your very fortunate chance at life getting shit on by low-value sluts, you're spitting on the less fortunate.

scottishredpill · 2013-11-11T19:23:05+00:00

Read the sidebar, it's over there -->

Decide on your own and be the man you want to

WaGGuM · 2013-11-11T19:19:08+00:00

BTW AMA. I have a feeling you'll care more than any girl I've dated ha

mordanus · 2013-11-11T19:31:31+00:00

First off congrats on beating the cancer thing (at least I hope you beat it). I think that you need to realize that the dream you have of finding that perfect love where she will love you just as much as you love her and that she will appreciate all the nice things you do and notice all of your sacrifices that you make for her is the male version of the prince charming fantasy. It's just not realistic. Swallow the red pill and study the things on the side bar. Learn to understand women and love them for what they are and not for what you want them to be.

WaGGuM · 2013-11-11T19:25:07+00:00

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2013-11-11T19:34:30+00:00

Do. What. You. Want.

2013-11-11T21:18:13+00:00

Well you can either take it now or take it 5 years from now after you've been heartbroken a few more times. Your choice.

WaGGuM · 2013-11-11T22:04:00+00:00

I'd like to throw this out there, though. What if I can't build my physical prowess up to where it needs to be for TRP? What if any disabilities deny me that? What are my options?

rp_manifesto · 2013-11-12T06:56:27+00:00

You know the truth. You are rationalizing continuing a life of mediocrity because its what appears better due to it being comfortable and easy. You didn't fight for BP when you fought cancer, you fought to live your life. Now you can choose to live life knowing the truth, or you can choose to live life knowing that you are living a lie. But you didn't fight to live a lie, did you? One of the number one facts of RP is the certain knowledge of your own mortality anyways. You're 30, consider yourself lucky if your life is not half over right now. With that in mind, how do you want to spend the rest of your time here? Provided you will be given a chance to reflect on your life before death (IE: That death will not be sudden and unexpected but foreseen in some respect) what do you want to look back on?

Ive seen fat, ugly guys get chick after chick because they had RP qualities. Those qualities are what make you attractive to women. Its what will make this girl attracted to you but by then it will be too late, you will have other options.

Good luck to you!

through_a_ways · 2013-11-12T08:02:22+00:00

The girl I liked at 14 ended up liking a lacrosse jock in senior year as well.

My condolences about your medical problems, OP. As for the pill, either you take it or you don't. You don't really "decide" to do so.

anonysaurus · 2013-11-11T19:53:21+00:00

You are bitching because she got drunk and said you werent the best? So now you want to take a metaphorical pill and you think it will change something? You have a huge misunderstanding. Instead of running away from your problem, why dont you become the best she has ever had? If thats too much work then you have to be comfortable with knowing your place. Who gives a fuck if you arent the best, she is with you for a reason right?

The problem is your own insecurity.

WaGGuM · 2013-11-11T19:24:10+00:00

We don't give a shit what you do. Had you been reading the sidebar and all the introductory material, the answer to the question would have been obvious from the beginning.

Title	Pill on the counter... Glass of water staring me in the face
Author	WaGGuM
Upvotes	5
Comments	32
Date	November 11, 2013 7:09 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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