So I met a guy through a friend of mine, not really looking for anyone because I'm just over it. Every single guy I date has been garbage and I'm just done looking for a unicorn.
Nonetheless, this guy, who I've known for a good four months now, seems to have the key indicators of a HVM... has a good job, has a clean apartment, can cook, rescued a dog, owns a car, has friends who are decent, has never said a shitty thing about a woman or anyone else for that matter, etc... and also he seems to just offer to do a lot of stuff for me, like fix things when they're broken... cleans things at MY apartment (I live in a place with lighter covid restrictions and him and a few other friends of mine form a bubble... before he leaves he's always trying to wash the dishes on the way out and gather the empties).
I don't really know what to do here because I really like spending time with him and have developed feelings... he's smart, funny, nice...
Question 1: I am oblivious when it comes to men liking me as anything other than a friend and I tend to get friendzoned a lot a lot a lot. But if we're watching something on my laptop he leans against me, which as a Northern European i'm generally not comfortable with... I don't touch my friends... but I like this guy... and I can't figure out if he likes me or if he's just physically affectionate (he's from South America so maybe)... thoughts on this? Is anyone from Argentina? Is this a friend thing?
Question 2: I was over at his watching a movie and was face-down on the couch next to him. He gave me a backrub (didn't ask first)... didn't try to do anything sexual but .... is a backrub ever just a backrub? Again, if anyone from Argentina is here it would be helpful. I have no idea if this was a friendly backrub thing or a move.
Question 3: Are there any red flags here I'm missing?
Question 4: What, if anything, do I do next? If these are moves... I am stiff and European and don't know how to encourage... and right now it probably looks like i'm shutting him down
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I do like him. I just don't know how to respond to any of this... Unless he just straight up kisses me I am always going to think dudes aren't into me.
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I have not seen him interact with any female friends like this, no... but he's not particularly close with the ones I know and see him interact with....
No plans to pursue... how to show him I'm available? I mean if the backrub was a move, I just sort of took it.... I have no idea how to flirt... at all...
I have definitely been blinded by crushes before... but this crush arises from the fact that he keeps on doing nice things for me...
What do I do? Just wait for the next backrub?