Why do men have such an issue with women seeking men who make more considering that the gender pay gap persists?

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-07-29T22:16:04+00:00

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Any_Conclusion_4297 · 2021-07-29T22:12:19+00:00

Gender pay gap is mostly women choosing careers that pay less, so if you're a woman in a high-earning field the "gap" barely applies to you (I say barely because there was like a 1% or 2% difference between males and females working similar jobs).

Many men care- to a degree- that a woman is making SOME money but they don't put the same pressure on women to make a lot as woman (such as yourself) put on pressure to men.

I'm fine with a woman making less than me or more than me as long as it's a decent income and they have work+life balance (by decent I mean like 1/2 my income + and I only recently entered the workforce so that's doable for anyone)

silkPJson · 2021-07-29T22:10:44+00:00

The men in this sub don’t believe the pay gap exists and no amount of evidence will convince them.

Also women having standards bad, man having standards good.

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TheBookOfSeil · 2021-07-29T22:12:40+00:00

It's about the double standard and the overt "give me your stuff" message. Men don't want to be seen as a living ATM for a woman.

As for your second point, gender pay gap data is largely biased and manipulated or misrepresented. Single women make more than single men, but married men make more than everyone, with the impetus being that those men have a family to provide for so give them more money. The only reason men are being paid more money is because women aren't seen as providers. They're seen as dependents. Women also seem to want to be dependents in the way that their man makes up for most of the financial security in their relationship.

Considering that women now have more advancement capabilities and opportunities than men according to the single data, every woman can't expect to make decent money and still have a man that makes more than they do. Women need to decide whether their ability to provide for themselves is congruent with wanting a man to still provide for them. Every woman can't have both.

hesipullupjimbo445 · 2021-07-29T22:15:31+00:00

Don’t be fooled most men are two missed checks away from being on the street.

As for you, just because you make good money doesn’t mean you deserve or will attract a man with money. One interesting thing I picked up on is you mentioned an apartment not a house. Is that something that’s strictly for marriage?

pentakiller19 · 2021-07-29T22:17:41+00:00

Look at my profile, go to the last post I made, and read the responses from women. When I argue women should be treated like sexual objects, I'm villanized, women are people and should be treated nicely because they are human. When a man argues the same, that he is human and should be loved in spite of his wealth, women argue the complete opposite. Of course women want a man that makes money! That's just natural! Women want to be loved as people while simultaneously dehumanizing men and treating us like ATMs.

And you know what? Thats perfectly fine with me. If women want to treat me like a disposable wallet, that's perfectly fine, but I can do the same. I can treat her like a wet hole and discard her when its inconvenient. So now the ball is in her court, women can decide whether they want to be valued as people or objects. I simply go along with her decision.

Nickover50 · 2021-07-29T22:27:47+00:00

I do believe there is a inequity outside of government or unionized workplaces. However, the income disparity should not be an issue as long as both bring relative benefits to the relationship. What women think they bring to the table and what men want is the real disparity.

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