I am stuck.

b1ngnx33 · 2021-04-29T02:48:57+00:00

Okay. You wanted BRUTAL. Stop reading now if you are too weak for this.

Block. Ghost. Ignore. ALL Women. All of them. No exceptions. This is not illegal. At least where I am its legal. No communication with them. No looking. Absolutely nothing.

You have over 30 years of dating. Remove this from your mind as much as you can. I know people have issues with memories. YOU can remove them. Will power. NO drugs.

Find your purpose. Or Hobbies. Or anything else that does not involve women. Attractive is irrelevant.

Give no fucks about anyone or anything. Its very simple. Give no fucks. The world dies tomorrow. Give no fucks. Everything lives. Everything dies. GIve no fucks either way.

Dating is a waste of money and time. YOUR money and YOUR time. Women are NOT worth any of it. Not one penny. Not one second.

Love is an illusion. Chemicals in the brain. Blah blah blah. Love is temporary and fleeting. Love is irrelevant. STOP being an emotional dumb ass and grow the fuck up. 54 years old. Your NOT a kid anymore. IF you really NEED love, get a dog. Dogs will love you. Real love.

NONE of this is easy. If you want easy, stop reading now. This will take years, maybe decades. Your brain will fight back. Anyone who gets in your way, block them. Ignore them. Ghost them. Anything gets in your way, same strategy.

You will fail many times. Get back up and keep fighting. Focus on your goal of FREEDOM.

This is a HARD path. Many will fail.

Dating for 8 years. Goddamn. How much money did you waste on her? Probably too much.

Last bit of advice : Its just your turn. She will LEAVE you. Guaranteed. 100%.

thefudmaster · 2021-04-29T00:41:46+00:00

Start walking/hiking and listen to audiobooks. It will save your life. Being alone is not lonely. Trust me.

yamahantx700 · 2021-04-29T00:33:16+00:00

Delete the dating apps and stick to porn for now. Hit the gym, get yourself in shape. You don't need to train for a Mr. Olympia contest, but at least lost some weight. But let's face it, at 54, you're facing lonely women without children, or single moms. Either way, not a whole lot of fun to be around.

What are your hobbies that involve other dudes? Maybe get back into those and hang out with the boys for a while.

What do you do for a living? Which field?

Ricksalab89 · 2021-04-29T00:00:04+00:00

Ill say the same thing I said over on MGTOW:

First off, its really great that someone of your age is open to this stuff, so you are gonna be just fine my man. I have no doubt about that cause you are someone who can be honest with himself, which is exactly what you need.

I’d look up Patrice O’Neal content. Specifically his “Black Phillip Show”. That will help you learn that bitches aint shit, and you dont need em. Also, I have a yt channel as well that is all about this stuff. Ill put the link below, sub if you enjoy. Keep up the fight king

https://youtube.com/channel/UCWMt5vdkD65locqfIp2nudw

realmtraveller · 2021-04-29T03:36:23+00:00

Better Batchelor

holdthecreamer · 2021-04-29T00:21:52+00:00

Here are some YT channels that I tend to watch:

Rich Cooper/Entrepreneurs in Cars

Coach Greg Adams

Better Bachelor

They’re just different flavors of this content, my man.

I know it hurts right now, but think about the bright side: you weren’t married to her. Unless you have some common law marriage issues, you are done with no long term financial obligations (I hope, no kids?).

Take time to work on yourself. Lose that weight. Lift some weights. Learn to be a badass. Never too late. Work on yourself because you’re worth it, my man. Be rationally selfish. Don’t let others dictate your worth.

Godspeed, brother.

12E21C6 · 2021-04-29T02:03:26+00:00

What kept you going this long? Asking because I can't think of anything and life's getting tiresome.

Match_Financial · 2021-04-29T01:03:49+00:00

You might be able to ask your doctor about TRT/HRT. At your age this might give you a second wind. https://www.healthline.com/health/low-testosterone/depression

MNCatamount · 2021-04-29T05:43:14+00:00

You're co-dependent. You're shifting from the extreme of addiction with dating apps - to wanting to 'give up on dating'. You need to deal with why you're addicted, not necessarily see women as the problem, or apps as the problem. If you weren't addicted to the dating app., you may go to some other form of addiction. You said that you're struggling with depression. A few therapy sessions could help pull you out of the rut.

Astral-Projector · 2021-04-29T06:28:11+00:00

Every man has to brake free from the matrix.

Somewhere down the road you've gotta start asking the question how instead of why.

Take a good look at yourself in the mirror while you ask those questions because the only one who can change you and fullfill you is you and you alone. No money or women can give you that.

But my basic recipe for development is this(works for me atleast)

- Eat super healthy and clean atleast 4-5 times / week

- Get your ass to the gym atleast 2 times a week and take walks daily.

- Stop drinking alcohol until you can manage to drink maybe once or twice / month(preferably stop with alcohol overall)

- Read atleast one chapter from a book or listen to one chapter every day.

- Set a short term goal

- Cut toxic people and losers out from your life, the ones that drain you. Even if it costs you YEARS of friendship. Never talk to them again.

- Rediscover your hobbies and interests. Choose one, dig in. For example guitar.

- Read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius(Just a tip, that book saved my life)

Remember:

"If a man know not to which port he sails, no wind is favorable." - Seneca.

It's not nearly enough info to become the best version of yourself, rediscover your true masculinity and self development but it is a start.

Good luck brother!

dachengchuan · 2021-04-29T19:28:11+00:00

go to the gym, walk, hike ... and no phones will exercising.

ZlayerXZ · 2021-04-29T19:57:27+00:00

YOU WANT BRUTAL:

All women are whores to Alpha Chad Thundercock and he doesn’t have to “date” them or suck it up to them to them in any way, so the dating thing only proves what a leash dog men are, so respect yourself!!! If you want to fuck go to an Scort or just tell women straight forward “I want to fuck you” whatever the outcome is, but never lower yourself by trying to buy love or companionship or social approval, those thing must happen naturally or they don’t have meaning anyway. And the only real thing from women that could really validate you is if their desire you, and desire can’t be bought or fake either, it happens in an instant.

Burn this through your skull and you’ll realize how pointless the peacock-like dating is, that’s what men during dating are; “peacocks”.

Dependapotamus209 · 2021-04-29T20:56:21+00:00

Try renegade 1

Jeanfrom2001 · 2021-04-29T21:55:21+00:00

Stephiscold will help you, check him out on yt.

Ok-Ad-975 · 2021-04-30T00:31:34+00:00

Listen to "the manipulated man" on youtube.

RevolutionaryShow484 · 2021-04-30T01:17:24+00:00

Remember, in anything in life.. It was not your, it was just your turn. And that is ok... Now go and be free

MeisterMGTOW · 2021-04-30T19:14:06+00:00

If you feel bad, look at Will Smith. At least you are not him.

ncharliend · 2021-04-29T17:25:09+00:00

Get yourself in shape first! I know it’s hard but it’s worth it in the long run. I’m currently not happy about my body but when I reach my goals I’ll at least feel better about myself when looking in the mirror. We believe in you, we’re here for you.

Specialist_Pilot_558 · 2021-04-29T16:36:38+00:00

Start with getting healthy. An unhealthy, addicted body is always on the lookout for a low quality fix. When you get strong stay humble. A big ego is a weakness. The greater the ego the higher the fall. Life is a humbling device.

Mynewadventures · 2021-04-29T12:36:43+00:00

You and I are the same age. Right now you probably want to date because you're still stinging from the end of the relationship, your ego took a hit, and you seek validation that you are wanted; can be loved.

You must have developed interests and hobbies over the last 4 decades...do that stuff.

When your heart is healed you'll be ready to date, and your looks and weight won't matter so much in dating.

Putrid-Department-90 · 2021-04-29T09:16:58+00:00

Call it quits man. You're 54. Go to Vegas and buy a prostitute every now and then.

SUEDE2BLACK · 2021-04-29T08:12:03+00:00

Sand man on youtube he's basically a monk and one of the original OGs in the sector completely demonized but puts out good content.

Get into the GYM asap get on testosterone get a trainer or coach get your ass in shape.

54 is not 80.Dive into the manoshpere head first work out sure up your finances search for your passion.

Avoid women they don't exist from here out get a U recommend a companion doll spend some money on a good one.but you gotta earn it by busting calories in the gym.

Good luck come back in a year with a progress report.....start today.

IconicRaven · 2021-04-29T07:32:05+00:00

I'm not like other members of this subreddit; I don't necessarily believe MGTOW is optimal for all men, for long-term.

I do, however, believe that all people should be alone while they grow and work on themselves. If you're ever going to be in a healthy, fulfilling relationship, you need need to be healthy, both physically and mentally ON YOUR OWN. A beautiful woman won't fix you. Only YOU fix you.

Delete all dating apps. Find online coaches that you connect with. I highly suggest Jordan Peterson. He changed my life immensely. Put those trainings into practice. Do this while exercising and eating better. You won't be perfect from the jump, but you'll get there. Don't be ashamed of your process, your transformation. EVERYONE YOU MEET that wants to grow, IS GOING THROUGH A PROCESS.

Do not compare yourself to others. That is a self-defeating mindset. It's more practical to compare yourself today to who you were yesterday. That's it. One day. Start small and focus on attainable goals, while having big, big goals in mind. You'll get there. You just have to trust the process, brother.

If you need to talk, my DMs are open.

DoItForDalebaby · 2021-04-29T07:30:15+00:00

Dude just focus on yourself for a little bit. Get your bitch ass into shape and dating apps also don’t work anyway. If you really need pussy buy it but other than that you are simply wasting youre time on there. I tried dating apps and I’m good looking. Got matched with big fat slop hogs. Literally coped a girls number from work tonight. She’s in the army and is shipping out ina month so I know she herself is looking to get pumped and dumped. Dating apps are for women and not men btw.

dadnhmtb · 2021-04-29T04:51:31+00:00

Focus all your energy into developing yourself. Get to know yourself. Come to like yourself. Find what interests you and get great at it. Never rely on women to make you happy. Only you can do that. The real mind blowing thing is that when you do this, women will throw themselves at you because you will exude confidence. Don’t take the bait. Use them if you must, but never again rely on them to make you happy. You are at the start of a fantastic journey. I hope you connect with yourself and realize how awesome you are.

kakramer1211 · 2021-04-29T04:20:25+00:00

Howard Dare

Also find out about KETO.

Complete lifestyle change is in order in your (and millions) case. Don't be miserable.

Such_Temporary_9597 · 2021-04-29T03:44:19+00:00

Stop being a little bitch and watch coach greg addams ya bitch

Title	I am stuck.
Author	r0adkill76
Upvotes	1
Comments	41
Date	April 28, 2021 11:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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