Ok Boys, let me run this by you. I had my daughter's First Communion party, a sleepover, and her birthday party this weekend. The ex narc showed up for the birthday party, snuck around the house a couple times, contributed nothing financially to either party (not the sleepover, just the parties). She didn't help with set up or clean up. Wouldn't you expect something?

My perspective is I would never let her take on the cost by herself but that's just ammo to vilify me out hold it against me.