Be honest with me, nobody has in 11 years.

hustlors · 2019-06-25T17:26:24+00:00

Yes, she was a horrible choice for a legal partner from a financial perspective. She will always have you by the balls financially.

cult_of_da-bits · 2019-06-25T16:49:46+00:00

Without a prenup? Possibly.

wafflesareforever · 2019-06-25T16:58:48+00:00

Forget her debt, her work schedule and her family. Do you love her? Can you envision a long-term future with her?

ideliver22 · 2019-06-25T17:46:36+00:00

Does her student loan debt predate the marriage?

HelplessCircus · 2019-06-25T19:23:27+00:00

Have you discussed any of this with her?? If she is 12 years younger she may be just going through a different stage of life for whatever reasons. However, it doesn’t sound like she is motivated to succeed in life by working so little hours and not pursuing a career to utilize her education. At least you have things secured financially if you should decide to separate.

Do you think it feels like a job because she isn’t financially pulling her weight?

At this point I think you have to decide if you love her and that the love is strong enough to work through discussing it and making changes. Beat of luck my friend!

Deezguyz · 2019-06-27T23:01:18+00:00

I had a fairly similar relationship where my wife put me through school for two yrs and I put her through six and tons of side debt. We have been together 11 years. Our daughter is ten, do the math. Lol. Anyways, we had a communication issue and I would occasionally lose it. Twice to be honest where the animosity and anger would build so much from her neglect and mental bullshit that I pushed her and poked at her. Long story short, she dropped any charges but I wish I could be the one who is ending all this. I gave her the upper hand by getting physical and I regret that. However, she and I both know that it was her lack of compassion that drove me this route. I thought I was fixing stuff by bettering myself but she didn't care. I should have broke up with her but I tried like the decent husband I was and great father I am still.

ikubyo · 2019-07-15T05:20:30+00:00

It’s real simple. In 10 or 15 years that prenup won’t be worth the paper it’s written on. You will be fucked! My biggest mistake was being with someone who didn’t want to do shit. She lived off me for 10 years then divorced me and took all my shit. If i could do it over I would be a man and give it to her straight. Go get a job and career or get the f out. Unless you have more money than you know what to do with your going to be screwed in about 10 years when she leaves! Seriously if you have any resentment or worry about her not doing shit you need to take care of it now. It will fester and fuck you down the road.

hustlors · 2019-06-26T00:09:26+00:00

Dude by reading your post history, you aren’t going to do better.

She wants you to let go and trust things are going to work out. If she’s a spiritual person that got with you, she saw something.

And it is 100% for sure that student debt gets forgiven within 1-2 presidency’s.

Why am I giving advice....to someone that probably deserves to lose his partnership

Title	Be honest with me, nobody has in 11 years.
Author	hustlors
Upvotes	12
Comments	26
Date	June 25, 2019 4:48 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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