How to proceed with LDR

TempestTcup · 2013-12-06T15:45:23+00:00

This is really the wrong sub for this, and for the life of me I don't understand why you need to "lock her down" for a LDR when you both go outside the relationship for sex. Just keep her as a plate.

Go to /r/TheRedPill and ask them instead - we are about LTR commitment and how to make our marriages better, not about cheating or screwing our way across the world.

LifterofThings · 2013-12-06T13:18:43+00:00

I don't mean to be a dick, but this woman's already demonstrated that she has no integrity and her word ain't worth shit. Fool me once, shame on you, etc etc.

Maybe someone else has some useful advice re: gaming this woman, but I can't seem to get around the "DON'T DO IT, MAN". Unless you don't mind an open relationship until you can remove the complicating distance factor, this is a no-go, imo. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

PhantomDream09 · 2013-12-06T15:06:18+00:00

Anyone is capable of cheating, which is why it's so important to never cheat at all. My SO and I have a zero cheating policy (we are exclusive), it's something that is very important to both of us.

We have both been cheated on in the past and it's simply not something we are willing to tolerate. There's a huge advantage to our philosophy: we know that we only get one shot. If either of us crosses the line, that's the end of the story for good. No second chances. It may sound severe, but knowing that makes me always err on the side of caution, and if something seems even remotely 'grey', I talk to him about the situation immediately.

Unfortunately, because she has already cheated, and you are giving her a 'pass'...when you say "this is your last chance" there may be a part of her that thinks "well, that's what he said last time and it wasn't true..."

The foundation isn't stable. She didn't respect you enough the first time around, so how/why should things be different this time?

I wouldn't trust her, or invest anymore time in her.

Enjoy your travels, have fun, and look for something more long-term when you re-locate somewhere.

All the best to you.

sugarcrush · 2013-12-06T14:10:57+00:00

Don't lock this woman down.

LDRs are already hard, and she already cheated. To make up statistics, you're taking like a 10% chance of it working with just the LDR, a 10% chance of working it out after cheating, and multiplying them together... Odds are so far out of your favor honestly I don't think its worth it (and neither is she).

YOU CAN DO BETTER!

FleetingWish · 2013-12-06T21:29:45+00:00

You want advice on how to remind her of her commitment to you because she already cheated on you once, and you don't really trust her to not do it again, and frankly I don't blame you for that. She's already shown to you that she doesn't respect you, and without respect women can't love you. Don't trust her, don't give her the benefit of the doubt. She hasn't earned it.

Thinking it's ok to cheat on your boyfriend is not a red pill mindset.

Bad_day_today · 2013-12-09T21:14:53+00:00

Most self-respecting women wouldn't be okay with you sleeping with other women no matter how high value you think you are. But, a woman who wasn't loyal enough to you to stay faithful when you were right in front of her isn't going to be loyal to you when you've admitted to being with other people.

Honestly, I think your proposal is pretty terrible and misinterprets what TRP is about. But, there's no need to get into that here because besides that, this woman doesn't seem like someone who will be locked down. If she's already cheated, it's not worth it to try to keep her.

[deleted] · 2013-12-06T18:35:21+00:00

[deleted] · 2013-12-06T21:32:45+00:00

People who aren't married don't have commitments. They have playacting

Title	How to proceed with LDR
Author	Nerd_Destroyer
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	December 6, 2013 12:31 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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