Swallowing the Red pill but still plugged in.

swift-heart · 2014-03-22T01:31:56+00:00

unpopular opinion: you don't need to banish every single feminist thought you may have. just make sure to ditch the loudmouthed, shrill behavior and sloppy, masculine appearance that is commonly associated with feminists. i don't think anyone in this sub currently identifies as a feminist but many of us come from that kind of background. we may even sympathize with the feminists on certain issues.

and your self-worth shouldn't be derived from your ability to act rp.

that being said, you can make more of an effort to spend time with your father so that his values can positively influence you.

dicarlok · 2014-03-21T21:12:20+00:00

Also, you still are just 17. The teenage brain is a little different from the adult woman brain so don't be so hard on yourself...the important thing is to keep trying. Changing the way you think takes time. Don't come down so hard when you falter, but do come up with a plan to prevent yourself from making future mistakes in the future.

For example, explain to me exactly what you feel your mistake was (yes I can read but it's a thought exercise) and what you can do to prevent a faux pas next time. :)

dropit_sphere · 2014-03-22T03:08:28+00:00

It's funny; as an RP man, I generally place more blame on the dude in the situation you described on TV. This puts us in the place of two genders blaming themselves, which is certainly better than blaming each other.

Much of the time, by the way, women are right about what their men should do. TRP isn't about women being stupid---it's about respecting their men and letting them lead. I think women have a hard time appreciating how good this feels for men, because it doesn't feel the same for women.

Anyway. The reason I started this comment was so OP doesn't go overboard on giving men free passes. In particular she might want to read up on the construct of honor (Google "art of manliness honor"). This is a big part of male morality.

Different genders have different moralities, somewhat surprisingly. I would look more harshly on a guy who slept with his friend's wife than a woman who slept with her friend's husband; I would look more harshly on a woman who cheated on her husband than a man who cheated on his wife.

spongegloss00 · 2014-03-22T04:17:36+00:00

Well on the one hand, you were being hypocritical, but on the other hand, I find that people tend to sympathize more with folks of their own gender. Sometimes I'll watch Mad Men with SO- I'm outraged by how much Don cheats and how awful he is to women, and my SO is just like "Well he had a bad childhood, his wife is being a bitch etc" Meanwhile, if SO sees Betty or whoever cheating on Don (which to my knowledge only happened once) she's a horrible person suddenly. I think it has to do with who you identify with.

Having said that, your dad is right, but don't beat yourself up over it!

FleetingWish · 2014-03-21T23:54:34+00:00

You're fine it's a learning process. The important things is you're not a "bitch" and acknowledge when your wrong. That's one of the things that's most important for growth, admitting you're wrong.

[deleted] · 2014-03-21T20:53:03+00:00

Have you read the side-bar? Check out the material there, as well as the suggested blogs. Make a list of your weaknesses and areas that you need to improve on.

[deleted] · 2014-03-22T00:07:09+00:00

You're starting earlier than I have (I'm 19), so kudos on that.

An important thing to know is that adopting RP theory (at least for women) is often a work in progress and is still an active battle against your conditioning and predispositions (like hamstering and shit-testing). You're very young, so while your mind is more easily molded, you would also be more inclined to be combative. Just remind yourself what you need to work on and then work on it.

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Title	Swallowing the Red pill but still plugged in.
Author	CopperRaccoon
Upvotes	1
Comments	9
Date	March 21, 2014 8:47 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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