How can I, a woman, help you feel safe in public?

mgtowolf · 2020-01-18T01:29:39+00:00

It's not really your job to make other people feel safe. It's a lesson I learned long ago. Irrational people are going to irrational, nothing you can do will change it. I used to go out of my way to try an make women feel "safe" around me, no longer. I am just me, if someone can't handle that, it's their problem. Most people are fine with me, it's just the crazies that are threatened, and nothing I can do about it.

As long as you don't go out of your way to be an asshole to people for no reason, that's doing good in my book.

Lethn · 2020-01-17T22:55:34+00:00

You can't unfortunately, the only thing you can do is not join in the hate mob when the shit hits the fan for example when it comes to stuff like MeToo. Now if there is a false accusation that happens and you see it happen it would probably end up saving men in that situation if you act as a reliable witness to what actually happened versus staying silent.

The good news is though, simply doing that is more than enough, there does seem to be a growing number of women on this sub who think they aren't doing enough but simply not actively being a part of the rampaging feminist hate mobs drastically weakens them because their whole power rests on the idea that they represent you.

If you were feeling ballsy, you could openly stand up to these cunts even in real life and be more outspoken about it, but even now I wouldn't recommend it as the backlash women get for speaking out against feminists is absolutely vicious and you might end up being physically threatened for it.

Perhaps there will be a time for that later when the feminist movement is severely weakened but for now I'm just happy seeing women who refuse to go along with the anti-male hate mobs. Right now even though these people have been stumped by their losses they are still a force to be reckoned with on a daily basis and shouldn't be underestimated.

_ReaverBreeder_ · 2020-01-17T22:52:33+00:00

Go you!! Epic to see more women who care about guys instead of yelling at them and putting them down!

AndyBrown65 · 2020-01-17T23:23:27+00:00

Great post and a great question to ask. There is one simple gender rule in life.
"A woman's world is ruled by fear, a man's world is ruled by pride"
Women are conditioned by parents and others that the public world is unsafe. Women believe that around every corner is a bad man just waiting to rape her then dump her body in some shallow stream. The facts are that men 18 to 25 are most likely to be victims of violence in public. The media love to over report the "women victim" stories as they know it gets attention.
Women's violence against men is seen as a joke, but women's violence is not just physical, it is relationship violence where women excel. Women will spread lies and innuendo about a man and create an "us and them" camp situation where you are Team Jenny, or Team Billy. They seek to destroy a person's relationships with other around them and hurt them that way.
So, "what can I do to make you feel just as safe and protected as you guys make me feel?"

The simple answer is call out your fellow sisters when they start their catty games of relationship abuse to hurt men. You would have seen it where some girl starts banging on to a group of her girlfriends about a guy and they all go "eeeew... that's gross" "what a creep" etc etc. That behaviour is the creepy behaviour.

Next time you are in a group of women and they start talking about stuff just take a step back and observe.

Nybaz · 2020-01-17T23:12:46+00:00

Men don't need to feel safe. We need to feel useful.

The worst feeling, for a man, it's the belief of being useless.

21yeeet · 2020-01-18T03:32:36+00:00

its not really a matter of keeping us safe, just dont do anything dumb, dont have a mental breakdown just because someone on twitter disagrees with you.

we just want to know that someone is on our side and is there for us, because in todays society, boys kinda feel like nobody is with them and they are alone in the wild

liztu_june · 2020-01-18T03:47:28+00:00

The only thing I really want form women is the ability to talk to you and not worry I am one step away for being label creepy or worried that I am one misstep away form a sexual harassment complaint.

petrol_sexual · 2020-01-18T02:27:10+00:00

One thing that comes to mind is to simply look at me/us and see a person first instead of a pedophile or a rapist. Seeing/hearing women assume that about me doesn't necessarily make me feel unsafe, but it sure as hell is demoralizing and insulting. The amount of times I've seen a playground empty because I showed up with my kids was more than enough to communicate how women see me.

deadlycrawler · 2020-01-18T07:19:24+00:00

I wish there was more women like you

michigansuperfan2 · 2020-01-17T23:40:23+00:00

I don’t think we want to feel safe, more so that we want to feel useful and needed.

2020-01-18T04:23:27+00:00

It's not about keeping me safe, it's about every female I interact with having the mindset that I am dangerous that bothers me.

optisadvantage · 2020-01-18T14:29:14+00:00

don’t be a bad person

-Hal-Jordan- · 2020-01-18T18:44:11+00:00

I saw a few articles from years ago that talked about how women don't feel safe in public with strange men around, and I believed them. It does make sense that women are often the victims in encounters with men, and they do get lots of men staring at them, looking them up and down, undressing them with their eyes, whatever. So I don't look at women in the grocery store, don't speak to them, and don't go near them. And now I've seen a couple of complaints that women are being treated badly by men because "They won't even look at us anymore." So it's time to rethink that philosophy.

One thing I really appreciate when I'm in public is to have a woman talk with me like I'm a fellow human being. One lady walked past me and said "Nice shirt." Another one made a friendly comment about something in my shopping cart. It says to me "I have no reason to fear you," and also it says to other ladies in the area "You have no reason to fear him." Maybe that behavior will catch on and we will all start talking to each other again.

EphemeralWitness · 2020-01-18T23:02:37+00:00

We appreciate the gesture, but it is more about what you SHOULDN’T do. Don’t join the hatred against men, don’t make assumptions about people.

antifeminist3 · 2020-01-19T20:33:03+00:00

Speak up when you see discrimination. Most men's rights issues can be at least indirectly if not directly traced to unequal treatment.

EvilLothar · 2020-01-20T16:38:01+00:00

If you see a woman assaulting a man, and he's not defending himself... STEP UP and stop her. This is something only women can do.

Whiteliesmatter1 · 2020-01-17T22:56:21+00:00

I don’t think men want to feel safe and protected. I can’t speak for all men, but I don’t mind that the world is a dangerous place for men.

I find that risk for me has a way of sharpening me. I have always gravitated to danger. Extreme sports, war, high risk occupations, dangerous destinations for “holidays”. And I attribute that to the discipline, focus, and acumen I have today. And yes, bad things have happened to me. Bad injuries, armed robbery...I have been shot at many times and been missed by mere inches...gotten myself into situations that were literally succeed at something difficult or die. But I wouldn’t trade those bad things that happened to me for any other life. I wear them like badges of honor. I feel they made me a hard mother fucker. Made me have an ethos of extreme ownership. Over everything that happens to me.

One of the big rallying cries for feminism is that rape rates are so high for women. But what they do t often tell you is that rape/sexual assault is the only violent crime that has more female victims than male victims. For the most part it is not am very socially acceptable, even among criminals, to pick on women.

lovinglifewithyowife · 2020-01-18T09:25:36+00:00

LARPING tranny.

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/dmhu8p/my_wife_found_our_sons_reddit_account_and_is/f50o187/

2020-01-18T16:05:15+00:00

I have brothers and other men in my life that I love. I am empathetic to everyone. That being said, I don’t ever assume that anyone WILL rape or murder me, but we’re looked at as stupid if we “allow” someone to betray us. Get raped enough and blamed for it, and you’ll be on guard all the time, too. Rape culture is very real, unfortunately. Of course, people know they shouldn’t rape, but most rapists are never brought to justice.

I will protect anyone in need, male, female, or otherwise in any way I can. What I won’t do is put myself in potential danger to protect your feelings. YOU may not be a rapist, Sir, but all men aren’t you, are they? Women put our happiness and even our lives on the line to please men all the time. That’s how it can be so easy to blame us for the bad things that happen to us sometimes. We’re taught to be polite, either because we don’t want to look like heartless bitches, or because we genuinely fear for our safety. It’s not about what we’ve been told for most of us, but what we’ve experienced after falling for the tricks of deceitful people.

CheaperMalice · 2020-01-18T17:28:47+00:00

I don't think most men need a protector to help them feel safe in public. I like where your heart is, but this is the wrong angle to pursue imo

excess_inquisitivity · 2020-03-03T18:29:38+00:00

Stand with the "bloodstained men" group during their next protest.

xNOM · 2020-01-18T10:14:35+00:00

We're men, not defective women. We're not obsessed with "feeling safe."

FemFactStater · 2020-01-18T23:52:09+00:00

Safe? Lmao. Men will never feel threatened or intimated by a woman. Women don't harm men. They're not violent like men. Literally the thing men fear the most is a "false rape accusation" which btw almost never happens and isn't comparable to the trauma caused by actual rape. If you want, you can suck their dicks and have sex with every man you see. That's all men want from women, you should know that. Don't use your little useless head for anything else other than doing what a man tells you.

rannerbeer · 2020-01-18T01:25:04+00:00

Stay the fuck out of our business, that's how. And remember to not falsely accuse anyone of rape. That would be nice. Ta.

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