Boys can be whoever they want

MagentaLove · 2019-09-09T04:23:46+00:00

The comments are actually pretty good. The people who think the dad's at fault aren't saying he's wrong because men shouldn't wear dresses but that the dad should have made the executive decision to not let him wear one as the kid couldn't have understood all of the social ramifications of doing so. From the reading it sounds like the kid made a little decision with not a lot of thought so the dad should have waited to have a discussion with him about the situation and what the kid wanted to do once he really understood the decision at hand. The dad in that situation has the job to protect his kid from completely unfair bullying. The kids are assholes for bullying, the teachers/administrators suck for pinning the problem on the kid wearing a dress, and the dad made a mistake of not stepping in for fear of being a bit late.

2019-09-09T05:51:41+00:00

Obviously if the kid wants to wear the dress he can but to let your kid do so KNOWING the social ramifications that entails when a boy wears a dress, then you’re not really the victim. He’s not an asshole but he does need to consider their external affects of doing something like that

Dim-n-Bright · 2019-09-09T11:27:05+00:00

It's a "damned if you do, damned if you don't" kind of situation. If he wears a dress, he's making himself a target for the bullies. If he doesn't wear a dress, he's conforming to what the bullies want. I'm not sure what to suggest.

Vinniikii · 2019-09-09T17:05:12+00:00

They talk about misogyny but nothing brings out hatred of men like when small powerless boys start trying to share in the fashions women have claimed for themselves.

bkrugby78 · 2019-09-09T12:24:43+00:00

Imo, the dad made an error in judgment. I'm guessing it's elementary age. At that age, kids don't make the best decisions. If they had their way, they'd eat ice cream for breakfast

Yes, you should teach your kids to stand up to bullies. No, you shouldn't let your son wear a dress, unless he knows how to defend himself.

N19864 · 2019-09-09T13:15:40+00:00

The father was a bit of a fool. At that age, children do not know the ramifications of their actions. He should have been a parent and actually did some parenting.

It was his roll to guide his son to fit in society in a healthy fashion. If given a choice of wearing school clothes, his Pyjama or bunny outfits with fluffy ears, most kids won't make the right choice, and it is up to the parent to set the child straight.

Yeah, he is AITA and made an awful parenting choice. His wife is 100% right to get upset with him and for their son. Get a grip on reality and stop drinking the SJW kool-aid.

HeForeverBleeds · 2019-09-09T04:46:02+00:00

I don't get that argument "you shouldn't allow your son to wear [such-and-such] because he'll be bullied for it. It's for his own good that you don't let him". It's for his own good that you teach him that if someone bullies him for something, he should pander to what the bullies want?

There are people who will bully kids for all kinds of things. If a boy is being bullied for reading all the time or having some other nerdy hobby, should his parents tell him "now don't read / enjoy your hobbies anymore, because if you do the bullies won't be happy"? I think it's more important to

teach him to be and accept himself, regardless of what other people think about it
get adults, teachers, parents, principals, and even legal authorities if necessary more involved in combatting bullying

Not say "conform, because you don't want other people to be upset with you"

Title	Boys can be whoever they want
Author	0192773
Upvotes	35
Comments	18
Date	September 9, 2019 3:22 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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