Feeling Feminine

ThatStepfordGal · 2017-02-22T06:09:29+00:00

Curl your hair into a more vintage do. That's one good way to work with short hair into being more feminine.
Wear skirts that flare with a belt as to accentuate your waist line.
Pointed shoes, whether flats or heels are always feminine.
Wear floral dresses.
A good perfume also helps. Sweet ones especially.

MissSarahSayre · 2017-02-22T15:16:31+00:00

I chopped off my hair into a pixie last July because I always wanted to and was tired of my hair. Although I don't regret it, I'm a little impatient and want it to grow back!

I also have the problem where I don't feel as feminine with short hair. And unfortunately there's not much for me to do until it grows out a little more (almost at a decent bob). I make sure my hair always looks neat. Sometimes I play with embellished bobby pins, headbands, and scarfs. I'm still learning makeup, so I'll practice that.

And when I feel especially down I'll read this post from the sidebar. Femininity isn't about dressing up and this is a good reminder.

MsSadieDunham · 2017-02-22T15:32:04+00:00

Make up everyday! My hair is short, I cut it to donate it and went with a cut I've always wanted to try and now I'm growing it out, so I can totally sympathize with you. Make up and earrings help me feel more feminine. Also, you could start taking prenatal vitamins, they make your hair grow faster. I'm still taking them because I nurse my 6 month old and my hair is growing pretty rapidly.

Hellfire22 · 2017-02-24T02:16:21+00:00

You can totally still be a tomboy and be feminine at the same time. I am :)

Dresses and skirts are great, just not when it's cold. In winter you could wear a simple jumper dress, leggings and some boots. It's so easy and comfy. Other days, you could totally do something like this:

https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/f9/dc/5d/f9dc5dbded67b9fd0f0f1bdaaa1c2538.jpg

Also easy.

Getting a fake leather jacket works wonders and adds that femininity to pretty much every outfit, including jeans/pants.

As for make up.

Doing your eyebrows changes your whole face. Pair it with tinted moisturiser and mascara, a lil lip gloss and you're sorted.

Hair? Braid it in to a French braid and leave it over night. Simple waves are really pretty :) I'm not sure how short short your hair is, but there's always a way to curl it. If you don't want to, straighten it and have a side parting.

These are really effortless and quick ways for the lazy ladies out there like me lol.

Violet_kitty · 2017-02-22T21:05:11+00:00

I did the same thing when I was your age! Partly because of a bad break up, partly because I had dyed my medium-brown hair black to match my eyebrows and growing that out seemed too painful.

Okay, what got me through it all was my love for old hollywood. Short hair was a style many actresses wore.

Now, I'm not saying it's painless! Many people thought I was 15. A few people thought I was a boy at first glance! All very frustrating as a full-grown woman. But it passed! This is good 'growing your hair out while remaining feminine' guide.

Okay, now how to not feel fake. This is a good post about authenticity. I especially like the end paragraph:

One word of caution: don't confuse "authenticity" with laziness or fear. Not wearing heels because you don't want sore feet shouldn't be excused by telling yourself you "aren't feminine enough" to wear them. Likewise, you shouldn't hide behind unflattering clothes by telling yourself you are a "tom-boy" or that they just attract "the wrong kind of attention," if the truth is that you are afraid to step outside of your comfort zone by wearing sexier, more feminine clothes.

Hope this helps! :)

Edit: Formatting issues!

onacasserole · 2017-02-23T21:15:21+00:00

I think the key for you is to not age yourself with your clothing. You're 18 so your feminine style shouldn't be the same as mine (and vice versa)! You don't have to be super dressed up to look really femme. The other hair advice here is good so I'll give you some fashion-y recommendations that are girly but not so formal you'll look odd among your social group:

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=f21&Category=dress_casual&ProductID=2000226535&VariantID=

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=f21&Category=dress_casual&ProductID=2000224729&VariantID=

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=f21&Category=dress_casual&ProductID=2000227654&VariantID=

http://www.forever21.com/Product/Product.aspx?BR=f21&Category=dress_casual&ProductID=2000235139&VariantID=

https://www.lulus.com/products/that-s-jean-ius-blue-chambray-dress/296392.html

g_e_m_anscombe · 2017-02-25T02:50:52+00:00

Thank you for the tip!

droppingghz · 2017-02-26T23:22:54+00:00

New-time RP'er here, and just got to the side bar about RPW and have been amazed that RPW actually exist. Saw this post and have to say to the OP - I am a huge fan of short hair - in fact those are the ladies I focus on, even at the expense of ignoring women that are sending me all the signs. I agree with a few of the posts here, femininity is alot about style and decoration. It's not "one" thing (oh and also as a side-note, most people are too self-absorbed to remember or care after a few minutes of meeting you - those who mind, don't matter; those who don't mind... ).

cynicalhousewife · 2017-02-23T17:15:18+00:00

I think the point of it all is just to act naturally. A lot of women don't act naturally because they have been taught that women are an oppressed collective and they have a chip on their shoulder. A lot of this behavior is subconscious and takes time and research to become aware of. Just do and behave what feels right for you, stop justifying yourself and be true to yourself. All the cute clothing in the world won't cover up a woman who is insecure and has a subconscious desire to prove herself to the world. You need to focus on what is inside and get in touch with your true feelings and desires and the rest will sort itself out along with that.

g_e_m_anscombe · 2017-02-22T06:21:53+00:00

If you're looking to dress feminine casual, I would try to find certain kinds of dresses. The floral a-lines tend to feel more dressy.

I have a couple cotton, casual dresses that can be dressed up (with jewelry, a nice belt, etc) or dressed down (with a more comfy jacket, or more casual shoes).

To give some examples, something more like this: https://www.modcloth.com/shop/casual-dresses/wowed-by-your-ways-jersey-dress/10092361.html?dwvar_10092361_color=HNVY&cgid=casual_dresses_111 https://www.modcloth.com/shop/casual-dresses/understate-the-obvious-sweater-dress/10074180.html?dwvar_10074180_color=GREY&cgid=casual_dresses_111 https://www.modcloth.com/shop/casual-dresses/kheer-to-join-us%3F-shirt-dress/10083650.html?dwvar_10083650_color=BRICK&cgid=casual_dresses_111#start=26 Mod cloth can be a bit more expensive, but you can find decent styles at a place like Ross if you're willing to do more hunting.

Title	Feeling Feminine
Author	little-missdaisy
Upvotes	8
Comments	16
Date	February 22, 2017 1:23 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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