Lesbian Women Have Higher Rates of Domestic Violence Than Hetero Women, 43.8%

XavierMalory · 2019-03-01T17:26:18+00:00

Makes a lot of sense. Even lesbians have that drive within them to find the "better provider" simply because they're female. So what happens when you get two people together who both "want better"? Someone has to fill the role after all, and shit's gonna get ugly.

summonblood · 2019-03-01T17:22:21+00:00

Something also interesting in this study:

28.6% of heterosexual men who experienced sexual violence other than rape in their lifetime reported having only male perpetrators.

summonblood · 2019-03-01T17:11:45+00:00

Edit: I don’t want to spread misleading information, it was correctly pointed out to me that on page 8 it says:

“Two-thirds of lesbian women (67.4%) reported having only female perpetrators of intimate partner violence.”

This would mean that female on female domestic violence in lesbian couples would be 0.674 * 43.8% = 29.5%.

98.7% of women reported only having male perpetrators of domestic violence, so 0.987 * 35% = 34.5% is male on female domestic violence, so for lesbian women domestic violence from females isn’t higher than hetero women from men.

******However, it’s still important to note that there is only a 5% difference which means this isn’t just a male issue as it is often conveyed.

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Life-time prevalence of violence by an intimate partner summary:

Women:

Lesbian - 43.8%, Bisexual - 61.1%, Hetero - 35%

Men:

Gay - 26%, Bisexual - 37.3%, Hetero - 29%

Life-time prevalence of severe violence by an intimate partner:

Women:

Lesbian - 29.4%, Bisexual - 49.3%, Hetero - 23.6%

Men:

Gay - 16.4%, Bisexual - numbers too small to report, Hetero - 13.9%.

BruceCampbell123 · 2019-03-01T20:56:36+00:00

They also have the highest rate of divorce.

2019-03-01T22:21:35+00:00

Well shit there goes the PATRIARCHY and DULUTH MODEL horseshit, doesn't it?

PotatoPopsicles · 2019-03-02T07:05:08+00:00

I’m a bi (leaning to girls) female and I had a manipulative and abusive gf for 4 years. I was the more masculine one in the relationship (yes, that happens sometimes, and anyone that pretends it isn’t fairly common is really desperate for their ideology to remain unchallenged). She would slap and shove for a while, then it became bottle throwing and then heavier things. At first she would cry. “I didn’t mean to,” and “It’ll never happen again!” were common words. I believed her. I made excuses for her behavior, even blamed myself. After she attacked me for telling her not to talk to my cousin in a certain way, I told her I would tell the police and she said she would tell my parents that we weren’t “just friends” all this time. She threatened to out me for my alcohol problems and even accuse me of cheating, basically just ruin my reputation. I gave in.

Then came the “open relationship” proposal. I had no self-worth and so the part of that didn’t want to do this just shrugged. When I finally broke up with her a year after, she called me to tell me that one of our third wheels had been diagnosed with HIV, and she was positive and so I should get tested. I was so afraid. I remembered that during this year and some outdoor playtime with my little sibling (6 years old at the time) that we most likely had blood contact. If I tested positive and gave it to my sibling, I decided I would rather end my life than go on living knowing thatI gave that to a little child. I wanted support, but not from my ex, so I called the #3 that tested positive and said I was scared and that it wasn’t her fault since she didn’t know, and that we could get through this together. And she said…

“What the hell are you talking about?”

It was all a ruse. My ex faked HIV to try and get sympathy from me. She knew I would get a negative result because I didn’t have it. She would then use it to say “at least YOU’RE clean” and get pity from me. She was going to pretend to have a LIFE THREATENING STD to make us get back together. I called her and told her a few choice things. I now spend a lot of my time trying to inform people that yes, women are very powerful in the world of domestic abuse, and no one is immune. Not from physical abuse, not from emotional abuse, and not from nasty manipulation.

omegaphallic · 2019-03-03T18:56:25+00:00

And yet how many resources like shelters are designed for Lesbians in mind? The entire system is designed exclusively for hetrosexual women only, men and none hetrowomen and trans are left out in the cold.

guntermench43 · 2019-03-02T04:59:03+00:00

Is that NISVS? Add the made to penetrate and rape stats for last 12 months for men and compare to the rape stats for women. That's a neat one as well.

Greg_W_Allan · 2019-03-01T22:52:33+00:00

Women report at higher levels than men. In lesbian relationships the effect is doubled.

DJ-Roukan · 2019-03-02T05:44:55+00:00

here is the kicker.

currently it is noted that men are the victims in 40% of all domestic violence instances of note. however, when we consider lesbian relationships, and remove female victims counted in those relationships, shift the data to perpetrator, we find that women commit DV in just about equal numbers as do men.

summonblood · 2019-03-02T14:43:45+00:00

Check again. One third of lesbians who suffered domestic violence had male agressors. Which means only 29% of lesbians suffered domestic violence by a woman.

Title	Lesbian Women Have Higher Rates of Domestic Violence Than Hetero Women, 43.8%
Author	summonblood
Upvotes	49
Comments	34
Date	March 1, 2019 5:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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