I had an abortion, I was raped and I didn’t tell him, am I terrible?

icandrive155 · 2018-07-02T23:03:12+00:00

If you were really raped, then no. A rapist has no paternal rights, IMO.

But these days, there's lots of different kinds of rapes. Some real and some imagined. Only you and the guy know for sure.

pipoliviero · 2018-07-02T22:59:51+00:00

Why would you tell your rapist that you aborted his baby???

Eon-Leon · 2018-07-02T23:00:14+00:00

No, In my opinion the baby was forced upon you and you had every right to have the abortion. Also you should tell him, he should be your greatest supporter.

Edit: that doctor was incredibly ridiculous, you didn’t decide to have that baby and you weren’t married it would have been just you taking care of the baby. I know it’s hard to deal with the loss of a life but it was for the better; your advancements in career as well as meeting old friends. To ensure you know this, I highly suggest you confide in your boyfriend how you felt what you did and what you were afraid of, make sure he understand both the objective situation and your subjective beliefs. Bottling up your feelings only leads to an explosion but keep in control and remember your friends, family, and boyfriend are there and you are a huge part of their lives and the deed was done you can’t revive that baby just keep it as an event you must move on from.

goodmod · 2018-07-03T00:51:11+00:00

I don't think you're terrible at all. If I were a woman I wouldn't like the idea of carrying a rapist's seed.

In such a situation you shouldn't be concerned about anything but your own health and best interests.

Uhh_Political · 2018-07-02T23:08:15+00:00

I think abortion is wrong. Let me make that clear. I'd rather you'd put the child through foster care (safe-haven laws exist for a reason)

However, your rapist deserves absolutely nothing here. They do not have parental rights. Actually, you should be putting them in jail by having the courts pursue charges.

TheMythof_Feminism · 2018-07-02T23:01:52+00:00

Relatively new account.

Minimal comments / posts.

Almost guaranteed to be fake story.

Sensationalist presentation.

This has red flags all over.... but I will respond as if it wasn't an obvious troll; The possibility of a woman getting pregnant through rape is very low. The fertility of women is not at a constant, it can decrease to near zero at any given time depending on certain types of medication she takes [They don't have to be contraceptives] or something more mundane like obesity.

Moreover, a woman is only fertile a couple of days a month.

Rape is already such an incredibly rare crime that I straight up don't believe any woman that claims she got pregnant from rape, it... I worked at a health center for a year and every single "rape pregnancies" eventually turned out to be a woman that cheated on her husband but didn't want him to know, or young women that were slutting it up and got pregnant against the wishes of the parents. Not once was it ever on the up and up.

I'm sure somewhere at some point some woman has gotten pregnant due to rape. But this is a fraction of a percentage out of a fraction of a percentage. It's infinitesimally low.

2018-07-02T23:40:33+00:00

Unclear. Let every ~~sucker~~ potential mate know. Preferrably not at a time cherry picked to minimize cognition.

contraterrene · 2018-07-03T12:33:48+00:00

Dear Sad-But-Trying,

No, you are certainly not a terrible person. Rape is a horrid violation of one's personhood and no one should be forced into parenthood by another. No doubt, you did the right thing for all concerned.

I hope you can find peace within yourself soon.

Title	I had an abortion, I was raped and I didn’t tell him, am I terrible?
Author	sad-but-trying
Upvotes	0
Comments	26
Date	July 2, 2018 10:55 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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