Going to bars alone

I_Luv_Procastinating · 2017-05-12T06:38:57+00:00

When you go to the bar, people will sometimes ask you if you came by yourself. Obviously you wouldn't want to look like some creepy loner so a good way to frame the set(s) is by saying "I'm alone now. My friend just met a girl and took off with her."

This will put a sexual undertone to your conversation, which you of course want
If you're talking to girls, they'll compare themselves to this imaginary girl and wonder why no guy has talked to them or taken them home yet (basically stirring female jealousy and gets their hamster going)
You're implying how you're available now and you dont have anyone to tie you down
Some people will say how your imaginary friend is a dick but you can show them your stoicness and confidence by saying how it doesn't affect you and you're happy for him
It will also subtly imply that you're a cool person. Guys who can close girls are typically alphas. Since you're a friend of this imaginary alpha, you are now alpha by association because alpha guys are typically friends with other alphas

shitwiththatass · 2017-05-12T05:51:52+00:00

It's not weird at all. You can find the regulars that way and make friends.

FuckboyAWALT · 2017-05-12T11:03:51+00:00

Im also going out alone and most of the time they become the best nights.

Why?

Because I don't have to babysit my mates, most of them are beta and live the illusion that the right girl will come across out of nowhere.

If I got out alone, I first find myself a social base. Mostly some not so hot girls / Betas / alpha dudes.

Where I can always fall back to in case I have to next a girl in the club cuz she's a stupid bitch.

This is gonna be hard if you got approach anxieties.

After you successfully set your social basis you can approach. If you are succesfull you can even bring your new bitch to the basis and introduce her to your new 'allies' which will make the Bitch think your here with people = social reputation.

If you fuk up or she's a stupid bitch go back to your basis for some time show her you don't need her and have a good night anyways. Reapproach her if she's still bitchy don't waste time and instantly approach a girl next to her.

Cheers

mrpoopistan · 2017-05-12T14:54:35+00:00

The core problem with going out alone is maintaining frame. If you're not someone who has relentless and solid frame at all times, going out by yourself can be a disaster.

You have to be constant, borderline vigilant. Command presence. Otherwise, you're just gonna be that creepy dude who's alone and stalking chicks at the bar.

The upside is that you can steer pretty directly toward whatever activities you want. Some girl hits on you and you two wanna make out? There's no social circle inconveniencing you.

Done right, it works better. I strongly suggest learning to insinuate yourself into conversation. Overhear shit. Tell people you just through they looked interesting. People love to be pulled into conversations -- it saves them figuring out what to do with their lives.

banllama · 2017-05-12T15:01:00+00:00

I love going out alone. I treat it as an adventure where I am the story writer. Your fun is 100% dependent on you and not anyone else. That is a large responsibility.

The other day I was out by myself and was sitting on the stairs having a beer and looking at people, ready to call it a night. Then I thought, fuck it, gotta write a story. Came up to a group of 5 people and just started chatting with them. Ended up going to 2 other bars with them and having a great time meeting other people.

1Maverick1 · 2017-05-12T20:16:28+00:00

Definitely not weird. And actually. That's awesome that you feel motivated to go. It sounds to me like if you feel this way about your gf and other friends, you need new all of them. Go out and meet people! It doesn't even have to be at the bars either. Socializing with people you don't know will help you identify more pieces of yourself.

Pitchfork51 · 2017-05-13T20:39:10+00:00

That's like 90 percent of how I meet girls.

You just chat with people around you and if they don't think you are lame you are friends now.

If you need to make up and excuse there are a thousand of them.

Just got back in town needed a beer.

Met up with a friend who got off work and didn't feel like going home

It's a nice day outside and wanted to get out of the house

Just finished errands and wanted a beer

Idk anything man. Doesn't matter. If you are decent looking and friendly people don't think it's weird

Title	Going to bars alone
Author	backizwack
Upvotes	1
Comments	15
Date	May 12, 2017 5:44 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/6apja1/going_to_bars_alone/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/askTRP/going-to-bars-alone.90988 https://theredarchive.com/post/90988

Comments