Hi all,

Jeff from Florida here.

I have a plate who Ive been seeing for months off and on. On the phone the other day she mentioned whether we were friends or not as a joke and I said we were friends who hooked up if anything and 'dont think ill be doing more of that' .. we were also talking about her quitting drinking and working out more so shes essentially saying to all of it that shes turning a new leaf --- since when we drink is when we have hooked up every time.

I want to message her and basically say 'if your not interested in hooking up/hanging out let me know as I wont be asking you to meet anymore' to really clarify Im not going to be her friend and to stop wasting my time reaching out.

Im 27 yr old male shes 22.

She is a hb8/9 and does play games so part of me thinks its a shit test as well, as lately ive been the one initiating hanging out. I dont want to continue talking to her if shes gonna friend zone me but she could just be doing this.

is there ever a way to get closure on finding out what her intentions are or do I have to just go No contact. Part of me thinks I need to talk about this to put her on the hot seat (or is this beta)

My plate status for other girls is starting to pick up again but I do like this girl for a long time and banging her is great.

Thanks for any suggestions other than saying oneitus lol