WHAT WOULD YOU DO ?

abdada · 2018-04-27T13:54:59+00:00

Switch to Lyft, the women there are less likely to stalk you I hear.

Store_Front_Door · 2018-04-27T14:19:35+00:00

File a restraining order. If you'll stop posting in about two weeks we'll know what happened

RedPilledRoaster · 2018-04-27T14:01:16+00:00

She’s crazy. Do not make contact.

MattyAnon · 2018-04-27T15:59:18+00:00

but for the past three days, she has showed up at my job; she stays in her car & just stares.

IGNORE.

I mean, stay vigilant and all that... but this is a stalker and you treat stalkers by IGNORING. This is a scientifically backed methodology for dealing with people with this attachment disorder.

Any contact rekindles their hope. If they get zero contact, zero reaction, zero communication they gradually give up.

Tell her "go away" will trigger extreme reactions to maintain contact, including false rape accusations. You tell her "please fuck off now", she cries to the police "I just wanted to ask him why he raped me that night in my cab... <sob>... it's not fair that a woman can't do a taxi driver's job in 2018... <sob>.... I just wanted him to apologise for his actions, that's why I showed up at his work every day <wail>... I think I just need a little closure ... not for myself but for my daughter <strokes the leg of the policemen she's crying to>"

Ignore/zero contact. Can vouch this works.

purplefidgetmidget · 2018-04-27T15:34:31+00:00

I would advise contacting the police on non-emergency as they have a lot of advice on this. An ex had problems with a former boyfriend stalking her online and she had a chat with them and it made her feel 100 times better. They created a record of her call and took the information.

You should do this so that if something happens like she phones your boss and tells him you raped her or something you can point him to the police report you filed, and the texts you have kept+screenshotted+archived as evidence.

Builtspill · 2018-04-27T19:36:12+00:00

Go full beta. "I'm so lucky to talk to a girl like you."

chazthundergut · 2018-04-27T20:25:34+00:00

I would buy a dozen roses and go to her car and tell her that I've been super busy at work but I'm going to quit so we can spend time together.

And then I'd tell her that she's the only thing in my life that's keeping me from killing myself.

Then I'd finish by asking when I can move in with her.

That should do the trick.

suitcasecity · 2018-04-27T14:57:50+00:00

Try becoming overly needy. Suggested frequently here. That usually turns woman away

bupkiss1290 · 2018-04-27T14:21:33+00:00

I would give it another week, see if she gets the hint that there's nothing going on here. If she doesn't, you're going to have to level with her and hope she doesn't unleash the psycho demon in her.

curbsidelawyer · 2018-04-27T16:34:43+00:00

ignore it is !

slurmfactory · 2018-04-27T22:29:18+00:00

Creepy af. Stalking you outside of work shows serious mental instability and she could very easily be capable of a lot of bad things, including false rape allegations. You should listen to the other commenters, definitely let your local police know so that there is a record before she can pull anything. Seriously, dont risk it. You definitely stuck your dick in crazy without realizing it. If you see her do this again, you NEED to be proactive and get documented support on your side just in case she pulls some wackjob shit. Which, by her immediate crazy behavior, she is very clearly capable of.

You dont need to file a restraining order yet or call the police on her, but call and tell them what happened and you just want it on the record in case anything escalates. She could start calling your work and fucking your life up as well. Hopefully she moves on but this is stage 1000 clinger if she’s stalking you at work already bro. Be safe and let us know how it goes.

Hegend1999 · 2018-04-27T14:09:59+00:00

Omg, you have a stalker. You should have a talk with her that you don't want to be with her. Record it, and document on other occassions too, if she is stalking.

curbsidelawyer · 2018-04-27T14:28:45+00:00

I instinctively think that a restraining order or anything of the kind would be little premature...All her text messages has a tone of optimism in them (nothing creepy or resentful YET) “i miss you” “hope you had a great day” etc !

but prior to my Uber ride with her, she had no idea my workplace even existed.

MRPFuckMe1 · 2018-04-27T16:27:19+00:00

You must be dynamite in the sack.

bookloverphile · 2018-04-27T19:17:37+00:00

Just keep fucking her? Why don’t you do that?

trp_sidepiece · 2018-04-27T19:52:16+00:00

Why does she know where you work

adamantiumvibranium · 2018-04-27T21:09:03+00:00

Maybe she is hoping you request a ride Uber works on a system of the closet driver usually gets the request.

Still a little strange and can go completely wrong at any moment. Next time don't have sex with crazy.

Title	WHAT WOULD YOU DO ?
Author	curbsidelawyer
Upvotes	16
Comments	36
Date	April 27, 2018 1:52 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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