TL;DR - Husband (a natural alpha) brought another man into our marriage and I am so goddamn confused.

Sorry to invade (and also for the word vomit) but I need help and I don't know where else to go. I did some of the sidebar reading, I hope I don't butcher the lingo but I apologize if I do. I'm asking TRP because this seems to be the only place that fits my actual relationship power dynamic; I'm super submissive naturally and my husband is 100% in charge. I am a full person with work/friends/hobbies outside of our marriage ofc but within it I belong to him. I'd probably hate it any other way.

Which brings us to my current problem...

At the beginning of the month, I was just a good little wife who knew what the hell to expect and I very suddenly do not. My husband (Sir) was his normal alpha self. He's an excellent mate: extremely attractive, wonderful provider, even-tempered, confident, driven, funny, kind, great in bed- I'm fucking obsessed with my him and straight up find other men/women uninteresting. I was positive that was a good thing but now I'm not so sure and I don't understand.

You see, Sir has a friend. Friend is nice, fun, interested in the same types of things that we are. Friend also works with (and kinda for) my husband. Friend's dog is even our dog's best friend. Friend is decently alpha too I guess but not nearly as good in any way as Sir, no offense intended but it's true.

At the beginning of this month, Friend's car "broke" at work (though he hasn't mentioned it since?) and so he stayed the night with us to ride to work with Sir in the morning. NBD, we often have friends crash at our place for lots of different reasons. Friend's dog got to stay here too, yay! The three of us hang out and get stoned, like usual. We're avid pot smokers so this is pretty standard and often why people stay over.

First issue: We smoked much more than usual and that's a problem because Sir trained me to get turned on when I get really high. Also NBD though! I am a goddamn adult. I can control myself and wait until we're alone. Making me uncomfortable is a game he likes anyways, so I'll happily play it.

Second issue: Sir put me in the middle seat on the couch. I wanted to sit on the floor with my phone and plenty of space. However, Sir wanted to cuddle while he and Friend played video games. So I sat myself down between them and scooted into my husband's side, giving Friend as much personal space as I could without being weird about it. Slowly but surely, Sir starts crowding me into the middle as they play, killing that personal space.

Third issue: Friend also keeps moving closer, casually touching me a lot, trying to force eye contact, dropping hints, turning the conversation around to sex. Sir notices and seems to be amused. After an hour or so, I'm way closer to Friend than I'm comfortable with but I can't move away because Sir isn't giving me the space and knows it too. He's very smug.

Luckily, my discomfort ended when we called it a night. Except it didn't because fourth issue: I am loud. I can be quiet when I'm told to but it's difficult. Awkward sometimes but not bad because Sir likes to tell me to be quiet and then try and break me. He always wins, whatever, but we had Friend in the next room so I was trying my best to put up my A game and keep my mouth shut. Welp I did not win and Sir made sure Friend heard me just fine...

Awkward but also whatever. Sir gets what he wants, you know? I was very relieved that I wouldn't have to be flirted with anymore because Friend was going to leave the next day but Friend didn't leave. He still hasn't left. Sir is KEEPING HIM HERE. He's been here for weeks now. And the exact same thing happened the next night. And the next. Every goddamn night since then.

I asked Sir about it and he laughed. He called me cute and told me not to worry about it. The flirting has only escalated since then. Last night Sir actually put me in Friend's lap. Just picked me up and dropped me there! It doesn't look like Friend is leaving any time soon and the escalation + encouragement has me very anxious.

I am so confused and freaked out. Sir is a great leader usually but he's giving me orders that make no sense and he won't explain. I don't know how to follow them or what's even expected of me.

Reddit, what the heck? What is going on? What am I supposed to do?