How should I (17M) handle my fuckin parents

X--Man · 2018-05-10T20:08:41+00:00

Their house = their rules, and you have to deal with their bullshit.

Nothing you can do about it. They caught you with that smack.

I got caught sneaking out of the house when I was 15. I got grounded for about 6 months and they put locks and alarms on every door and window in the house after that. Just parents being parents man...

Tell them how you feel about it, and what them saying stuff like that does to you. IE: Guilt trip/heart to heart

If that doesn't work, just deal with it. You have to deal with assholes talking shit in every day life anyways. Use it as practice on ignoring bullshit.

DestributedCrowBot · 2018-05-10T20:04:42+00:00

You're less than a year away from 18. Start making steps towards that financial independence. It's summer. Go get a job, make some money and move out. I moved out at 17, I can assure you there's no law that forces you to stay at home anymore.

If you don't want to be treated like a kid, start conducting yourself as an adult.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2018-05-10T21:23:08+00:00

Hmm. Next time they call you out on it, simply say, "Hey, can we stop pretending I'm a junkie? Because I'm not. If you want me to go take a drug test RIGHT NOW, I will do it. If not, then you can pack all those accusations away."

Of course, only do this if you're clean.

I suggest it because my dad thought he was Sherlock Holmes or something and once accused me of not being where I said I was. As it happens, I had been where I said I was, and I'd seen one of his friends there. So I basically handed him the phone and told him to call so-and-so, who could verify my story. He refused to do it, and so I said, "Fine. Then you can shut up about trying to say I was somewhere else." - By this time in my life, I could easily kick my father's ass, which both of us knew, so I had more leeway when it came to expressing my opinions.¹

It worked for me, dunno if it would for you; that type of shit is dependent on circumstances.

¹ Fun Fact: one of my nephews got in trouble at school last year for mouthing off to someone. Some basic bitch started in on him and he told her off and made her cry, and, of course, she tattled. Actual quote from my sister: "Sometimes, my son opens his mouth and my brother's voice comes out." /mega lulz.

neverquitman · 2018-05-10T23:08:06+00:00

I'd say the alpha way is to respect your parents and not bite the hand that feeds you.

FieldLine · 2018-05-11T04:21:25+00:00

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3zxncl/ask_whisper_parents/

GayLubeOil · 2018-05-10T23:17:18+00:00

2018 parents don't listen to any kind of logic. No matter what argument you make they'll nod along ignore it and ask the same question in a week as if nothing happened.

Remember how all those boomer Cucks fell for the Syrian Chemical Weapons bullshit after the fell for the Iraqi Weapons bullshit? In a postmodern society people don't have memories only reaction kind of like 1984 actually.

Whenever they accuse you say: If you think your son is a druggie why don't you strip search him! Then take off all of your clothes. Repeat as many times as necessary.

The Pavlovian association with your nakes body should make them stop.

reallifemarlboroman · 2018-05-10T20:20:58+00:00

You need to prove yourself and make accomplishments post getting caught. They will naturally see the best in you eventually. If you are truly off the drugs and motivated it will happen naturally. Just give it time.

I know you said you haven’t done drugs since then so props to that. Seems fun and a good way to make friends but they fuck your life up and weaken your character.

RedpillLearn · 2018-05-10T23:28:08+00:00

Either leave the house and have to deal with a job and probably screw your relationship with you parents (if you even care). My parents were very harsh with my brother, he wasn’t allowed to do anything basically cause they didn’t trust him. He actually left when he was 18. But guess what I was the good kid and I was able to do whatever I liked pretty much, I never annoyed them and they never had a reason to keep me from doing anything. It’s either they’re extremely strict or you’re a pain in the ass kid. My brother would say that they’re very strict.. but he’s actually a pain in the ass. Let’s see what you come up with.. good luck.

TLDR: You’re probably just a bitch of a son to deal with especially since you did weed when you were 15 when you knew they didn’t like it. Hanging around some bad people I assume, it’s probably not your parents but you cause you’ve made them lose their trust in you. So try to be a good kid and they won’t shit on you as much hopefully.

Peter_B_Long · 2018-05-10T23:30:13+00:00

Shit sucks but you're reacting very emotionally. I recommend meditation. It will help you adapt to your situation and not feel so negative about the environment you are in.

When you are unhappy in life, start working towards ways to improve that. Get a job, try and go to an out of state college that has dorms.

Be stoic and indifferent. Next time they accuse you of being on drugs, say something like, "I'm just high on life" and laugh it off or some shit. No need to explain and defend yourself.

IMO this would be a good practice for red pill teachings. Maintaining frame, laws of power, deescalating situations.

[deleted] · 2018-05-11T00:19:15+00:00

Dude you broke trust with the people that pay for your life. Sorry, that breaks the 1st Law, don’t outshine the leader.

chazthundergut · 2018-05-11T00:44:12+00:00

You are living under their roof, so you need to follow their rules. It's that simple.

Go get a job and get your own place. Then you can do what you want.

ghosts_of_me · 2018-05-11T13:17:46+00:00

shouldn't smoke anyway its bad for your brain. especially when it's not fully developed.

youcantdenythat · 2018-05-10T21:52:15+00:00

Read the sidebar and search for stuff on frame and shit tests. Use amused mastery more than A&A with your parents unless you are ready to leave.

Every instinct in you at this age wants to be independent and to prove you're a man and can handle anything, and to cut all ties with them.

You need to realize this is a phase that everyone older than you went through.
You need to realize that, as smart as you feel you are, as strong as you are, as cool as you are, and despite anything good you think about yourself, you have NO fucking experience with the real world so you would be wise to watch, learn, and listen to adults as much as possible. What sounds stupid now, might actually be wise because you don't have much to compare it to.
Family can be one of your most important assets, especially in bad times. Don't cut ties with them. Don't burn bridges. Do what you can to make those bridges stronger. You will crash and burn multiple times and you will need your family to help you. They will need you also. Your highschool friends are temporary. Your family is permanent.

I'm telling you the shit that I wish I had learned when I was your age. Maybe it's impossible to learn this stuff at your age, but try to learn shit from old people, especially men, whenever possible.

anonanonetc · 2018-05-10T20:03:05+00:00

What is the difference between you now and you at 18? Move out now.

Title	How should I (17M) handle my fuckin parents
Author	JanIsPeterPan
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Date	May 10, 2018 8:00 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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