This is my first post despite being a fan of reddit for a few years now. However, I need your help now more than ever:

I (M22) have been sleeping with a friend of mine (F22 and we'll call her Jean) for about four months now. We both got out of serious relationships before meeting each other in our college course. So we decided why the hell not? It's college and we're both graduating soon. Except now she's pregnant...

Quick Background: I personally am a man of adventure. My plan after graduating was to travel the country and eventually do Peace Corps and making a career in the non-profit business. It is in my heart to do this and I have been looking forward to this time of my life since high school. I am very sociable and come from a large family. My brother and father each had unexpected children when they were my age and are now doing very well in life. However, my plans differ from theirs as I plan on moving away from home to experience life more. In fact, I am supposed to move to California in a month for a job... My life was perfectly lined up...

Jean has been looking forward to graduate as well but does not have any plans for work. She was planning on sticking around the area and looking for a job. She is a great person but does have a few health issues such as depression, anxiety and a few others. She is not very social as I am considered her closest friend. I am not interested in a relationship with her because we are so different and it is not in my interest to date considering my future endeavors.

2 weeks ago, she told me she was pregnant. I instantly became heartbroken and did not know how to act. I wasn't able to sleep, eat, or think straight for the first week and it has taken a serious toll on my mental health as well. I instantly considered the idea of an abortion because it's something she said she'd consider if this situation ever occurred. However, she is leaning towards keeping it because of my initial reaction. She wants us to work through this together in making a decision. She is PRO CHOICE though so that is important to keep in mind... It's terrifying because now she wants to try dating and living together, although I am really not interested in her like that. She has become very depressed at times because of my attitude towards the situation. I am very cautious with my words now because I want to keep Jean safe at all costs.

What I'm getting at: I have no idea what to do right now. If I say I would prefer an abortion, she gets mad because she considers that to be the easy way out. I get to go on my way of life and she has to deal with the consequences and side effects of an abortion. I honestly do not want to put her through something like that..... If we decide to keep it, my plans are shot. There's no way I would ever leave the baby. That's not what I've been raised for. I guarantee you I would be the best father possible towards this kid but it's just not something I was planning for (at least another three years and with the RIGHT woman. One that I actually have deep feelings for) Also...I would have to deal with Jean and her wanting a relationship. If we both return to our original homes, we would be 2 hours apart which isn't that bad. It would take planning for us to live near each other so we can split time with that baby...

To be honest, me and my brother grew up in this situation. My father worked very hard to provide child support and he also is a phenomenal man. My brother has since brought in two children with some not-so-great women. He is also a phenomenal father. I have pressure in my family to finally be the one to 'do it right.' I have always wanted to get married and have children. Having a kid right now would mean putting an end to my dreams of living a life of adventure and going places and helping people in the world....

Only one other person (besides Jean) in the world knew about this scenario before I posted this on reddit. Please please please be thoughtful and respectful. I need some insight.