That Was No Accident: You two were careful, but somehow she got pregnant. It happens. Or not... Getting tricked into fatherhood by a woman hell-bent on getting pregnant is much more common than you think.

aesopstortoise · 2015-01-29T22:32:45+00:00

One of the most important lessons a young man can learn, is that consent to sex is consent to fatherhood. They need to learn to be scared so that they will protect themselves and never, never, trust the woman. This sounds harsh until you find yourself paying for a child you were deceived into fathering.

One of the most important lessons a woman can learn is that deceiving a man, even the best, kindest man, into fatherhood, is a very efficient way of destroying a relationship.

I am losing count of the number of friends and acquaintances I know who have allowed this to happen to them. I am no longer surprised when I hear it again, it is as normal as planned pregnancy. The women who behave like this will not change, they don't see a need to, but when male contraception finally arrives, whether it's Vasalgel, gendarussa extract, or something else entirely, it is really going to revolutionise relationships, and these women are not going to like it. I hope that it will eventually lead to more honesty between the sexes, but until then either abstain or take responsibility, because if you don't you'll have to anyway.

RichardRogers · 2015-01-30T04:43:29+00:00

"A lot of us feel like it's not even really fair that men should get to vote, considering they could be 72 and, with a little Viagra, have another baby," says Vicki Iovine, author of The Girlfriends' Guide to Pregnancy. "For us women, it's really a limited window.

Holy shit.

We know that boys who grow up to become men don't necessarily want to be men. They like to be boys.

You're only a real man if you want to be a father? Holy shit.

And so women say, 'You know what? He's gonna just have to snap out of it—and my pregnancy will be the thing to do it.'"

Holy shit. This needs an "Outrage" tag.

Edit:

"I said, 'Why didn't you tell me about this sooner?' She's like, 'I didn't want you to influence my decision.' Something that has potential impact on me for the rest of my life, she doesn't want me influencing her decision!?"

At least he still has his male privilege^{^TM}

"She was like, 'You know what? You gotta be a man. You're gonna have to have a job 40 hours a week, and you need to support this child—this is your responsibility and your obligation.'

I want to get a vasectomy now. Is it practical to freeze sperm for later in case I ever decide to have kids?

ARedthorn · 2015-01-30T01:07:35+00:00

Very, very well written.

Makes the problem clear, leads you neatly into it, without being at all blatant or aggro about it. This is the kind of writing that (in my experience) actually works in our favor.

Realworld · 2015-01-30T07:55:29+00:00

Early on, I was employed by Washington State DSHS where I worked with Family Court orders. Hundreds of support orders against tricked and abused men passed through my files.

Observing Family Court proceedings was a stark wake-up call that prompted me to get a vasectomy while single and in my 20s.

This was followed by series of girlfriends insisting I get my vasectomy reversed. They all assured me they didn't want a baby. In each case I'd listen to their long explanation/justification/logic. Eventually they'd reach the end of their sales pitch and wait for my response. I'd smile pleasantly and say "No".

lmNotCreativeEnough · 2015-01-30T02:54:37+00:00

Until effective male contraception is widely available, I feel there needs to be a way to protect men from this. Not that anyone is actually going to do anything about it because the people with power are under the control of feminists.

2015-01-30T01:45:46+00:00

Every average black man's worry. Too many stories I've seen and the misery from it.

2015-01-30T09:01:24+00:00

This is very common. Particularly with women 30+. Never sleep with a woman 30+ without a condom unless you want children. Single women 30+ all want children and at that stage of the life fertility cycle they do not care who it is with.

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