For most birds, the male is wearing colorful colors. He has to sing and/or dance to attract a lady and mate. He his to work his ass off to get noticed. The lady is usually just brown and does nothing fancy but wait.

The problem in human dating is that we swapped the role. We expect the women to look pretty, wear pretty clothes, paint their nails, dance and sing while the men just wears a brown tshirt and an unshaved beard. While this is the total opposite to birds, we dtill expect like birds that men will make the first move. Basically, this means we have to rely solely on genetics. This role swap is the main reason why dating sucks as humans.

The solution, for men, is to act like birds. Dye your hair, learn to play music or to dance, use makeup, buy pretty clothes, etc. If you do that, you'll go from the 80% unnoticed to the 20% noticed. Acting like birds is the easiest way to escape dating hell