I've been following this sub for as long as I've known she wants to get a divorce. I've pressed her for reasons since day one and she's only responded in emotions and feelings rather than concrete terms. She did write me a letter citing my lack of empathy and her experience having equal weight in the relationship. Strangely enough it's my STBXW that has all the control issues. Anyway, I've spent the last 100+ days trying my best to convince her that this is not the best course of action for us and our family (2 kids aged 3 and 5). I've had crushing anxiety about the future up until just last week when I decided to stop looking backward towards what I had and accept her decision and just move forward.

I appreciate this sub and all of its heartfelt posts and responses. It's been a beacon of light in an otherwise dark time.

Thanks for being there and helping me navigate/validate my feelings. Y'all are awesome.