“A good compromise is when both parties are dissatisfied,” said Larry David. Is this how your settlement (or trial) played out?

HerbEverstanks · 2023-10-25T21:04:58+00:00

I'll let you know after my 41 month filing to final judgement with no kids order comes out

jimsmythee · 2023-10-25T20:03:13+00:00

Mine went to trial and I came out better than expected. She refused to work, saying she was "too sick to work". She wanted everything; loads of CS, loads of alimony, full custody, my house, my car, my retirement. And she wanted to stick me with her DUI fines because we were married when she got the DUI, so that makes it a marital debt, right? Right?

11 year marriage ended. She got $0 alimony. I got 50/50 custody. She got a small CS award. I kept my house and my car. She got half of my 401k. But she kept her DUI fines.

The $0 alimony and the 50/50 custody were the best wins possible. Everything else was gravy.

Gattsama · 2023-10-25T19:56:43+00:00

This is essentially true because no one is happy or gets what they want in a divorce. The women wants everything! And the man normally just wants / accepts the 50/50 and no drama, but sees the huge waste of resources that are attorneys and the corrupt family court.

I'm about as close to 'content' as a guy can be: no kids, filed Feb and divorced in Nov, assets & debts split 50/50, home equity split 55/45 and I owe spousal support. I'm unhappy with the huge amount of wasted resources (between $250-400k) and the stress of the process. I accept the huge spousal support payments because that's the system. It's not based on what she needs but my ability to pay 🤷‍♂️

She's upset she couldn't stay in the house (we had to sell), lost of control, and that spousal support ends in 3.5 years. She will never have a man of my quality or earning power ever again.

I gave never been more peaceful and stress free. I lost a lot of money, but fuck it; I can always make more money. I am happy to be on the other side, the process to get there always sucks!

Elliot9874 · 2023-10-25T19:38:05+00:00

I calculated it was cheaper to pay the lawyer then to settle lol

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2023-10-25T18:02:56+00:00

With many anything that you are willing to agree to is not enough.

WartimeDad · 2023-10-25T04:05:32+00:00

Our STXW’s don’t compromise. They just fuss until it’s over. We wouldn’t be in the sub if they compromised 🤣

Title	“A good compromise is when both parties are dissatisfied,” said Larry David. Is this how your settlement (or trial) played out?
Author	EmotionSix
Upvotes	9
Comments	9
Date	October 25, 2023 2:31 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/17fuiic/a_good_compromise_is_when_both_parties_are/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/Divorce_Men/a-good-compromise-is-when-both-parties-are.1236276 https://theredarchive.com/post/1236276

Comments