So when the old lady suddenly split and took the boys she wouldn’t communicate with me at all and lied to get a year long restraining order against me. (It was granted because I once called her a secretive bitch, no allegation of violence, etc.) She tried to have the boys included but that was denied. The only communication I’m allowed to have with her is about the two kids through email and she generally doesn’t respond whenever I ask about them.

So we finally had mediation last week and were so close to at the very least setting a date for me to reunite with them, but she couldn’t get it together enough to just pick an f’ing date. Yesterday she sends an email saying x and y dates will work, but she insisted that it has to be supervised or at her parents house 500 miles away. Since daddy has paid for her new lifestyle, I believed that she was close to her parents, but she now says that it’s a full day’s drive or $1000 plane ticket to get there and won’t do it unless I pay her travel expenses. I’m trying to just focus on the fact that I will finally get to hug my beloved boys again after a full year, but I can’t get out of my mind that I have no idea where they could possibly be.

It’s so hard going from a father who spent over fifty percent of time with their children to be completely cut out of their lives save a once a week FaceTime call. Now I don’t even know what state they’re in. Does anyone have an idea how to find out where they are? I’m definitely not trying to directly find her (I don’t care about her) and I’m legally allowed to know where my boys are, but she has a confidential address. The restraining order lapses either June 30th or July 7th. It’s unclear because I don’t if it expires from the date it was issued or the date I was served. My oldest will start attending kindergarten come September and I will fight with everything I have (legally of course) to have a say in his education and plan to move closer once my lease expires in my current rental come the end of September.

Any suggestions? Thanks for reading.