Has anyone been in a relationship that some might call codependent where your spouse did most of the work around the house and carried the mental load and then they built up resentment that you did not help out enough? My spouse said she had tried to tell me she needed more help, but when I made excuses like I will get to it later, she did it anyway. Then, she stopped asking for help and a year later wants a divorce. She said it was too late for me to change. I said I wish she would have told me how much it bothered her and specifically asked for help not just wanted me to read her mind. She said she should never have to ask, I should just know what needs to be done. Unfortunately, I became dependent on her because she wanted to do all the cooking and shopping, and am now feeling lonely and like I am not able to handle being on my own.

Maybe it is that she kept all the friends so she has a social support network, and I do not have that same network and feel like I have no one to turn to for support. It's really weighing on my ability to handle this life change. It is like my life was turned upside down with having to move to a new place, but hers is more or less normal as she has the house and not much has changed for her at all. So, it is easier for her to move on while my life as far as living situation change and lack of the friend network we had as a couple leaves me feeling alone and like moving forward is impossible.