I have been having financial issues since separation and lost my job. Child support is very high and I feel my wife has been able to build up her financial position well given her job and receiving child support that likely means she has more money than she needs.

I've read women are often in a worse financial situation after divorce, but for me it is the opposite. She seems to be living comfortably and I am losing my savings and am concerned I won't be able to afford rent since I was forced to move out of my house. The feeling of being worried about becoming homeless is scary. I was always a good saver and never thought I would be facing financial insecurity. The rent I pay is more than the mortgage was. Compared to my after tax income when I had a job, the cost of rent plus child support already exceeded that amount. Now add in food, insurance, car payment, utilities and other mandatory living expenses and there is no way I can make more money than my expenses. How can I survive all this financial mess? If I can't pay child support, I could go to jail. I never thought my life would become one where I have to worry about money and never would have thought I could have all the risks of child support arrears and possible jail.

To add even more financial stress, my wife is seeking alimony/spousal support since I made more than she did. She is also asking for me to pay her attorney's fees. I do not have money for all of that. I was already in financial trouble and now add on these extra costs. I can see why some people get so overwhelmed and financially ruined and left feeling isolated and lonely when separated or divorced that they can't see a way to live any longer. When the possibility of homelessness and/or jail comes to mind, they may not want to have to go down that road.