Hey guys. I’m 30 months into my separation. Custody has been finalized for over a year. Financial issues remain. We have limited the issues. I’m in the state of California where things take forever. We also had an appointed financial forensic accountant but that individual actually passed away. That caused an additional delay in my case. I can report that coparenting has improved tremendously. I have two boys aged five and eight. I have nearly 50-50 custody. I live 10 minutes from my ex-wife.

Dating has been interesting to say the least. I spent the first 12 months solo. Basically zero dating. Around month 12th I got into a relationship. That lasted six months. It ended in a fireball. But I was strong and I was able to exit that one. She came in hot and heavy as she tried to take over my life. I was strong enough to let her go. After that, I took a few months off. And then I got on the apps that was a fun little run. That leads us to princess number two. This one was super hot. Had her own dysfunction. We dated in two different periods. One month in September and then two months until recently. I ended this one as well. I could feel her slow slowly trying to decenter my life. I did not accept that.

Remember boys. We are the centre. Our children are the center. Our lives revolve around ourselves and our families in our communities and our children and our careers. Any woman you take seriously will be an addition. We will not make her the center. And if she tries to decent your life to let her go. Because she will not be in alignment. Remember the initial bomb is all love chemicals from the brain. Steer the ship strongly and you will recognise it as simply chemicals. Your brain will tell you she is amazing she is the best she is so special she is irreplaceable. You must keep her. Hold the line hold the course ask the right questions evaluate. Check her character see if she’s willing to be a partner and not another child that you will take care of. See if there are dependency issues drug issues alcohol issues. Take her out on nice dinners and a few good dinners with friends and see if she acts when the wine bottles are flowing on the table. Take her on a two or three day vacation and see how she acts when you’re with her for 72 hours straight. Do not move in with them at all. At least for the first one year minimum. And if you have kids be even more protective of your family. That’s all I gotta say, brothers peace and happy new year.