About eight months into separation, my wife started a relationship with someone. Don’t ask me how but I found out. My Spidey senses went up when she started becoming more cloaked and less forthcoming about childcare and visitation outside our custody schedule. I did some digging, and it wasn’t really hard to find her tracks. Initially, I was devastated in that not only didn’t feel like betrayal, but what made it really suck was the deception and manipulation. It took me nearly 2 months to come around to it. I am no longer heartbroken by it just disappointed that she continues this charade. I’m not asking for much here just a little honesty. Whenever she asks for side custody schedule childcare, and tells me some bullshit story of what she’s planning to do and why she needs me to help with the childcare. I know she’s running the same playbook. It used to piss me off now. I just look at it as not entirely humorous just head shaking disappointment. I guess this is what emotional detachment looks like from my end. She was a walkaway wife, so detachment was already done the day she told me she wanted a divorce on her end. I kind of now let’s look at it as a shoulder shrug. It is what it is.