This time last year, my wife and I were still choosing each other still in the fight. Today my wife has zero empathy, I think completely despises me in every way possible and has taken a lover who I think is validating her path for her. It’s head spinning how far she’s away from me now emotionally. When she first asked for a divorce, I felt there was still some empathy and goodwill between us. She even desired a friendship. Now…There is no friendship. There is no partnership. For the first three or four months, we actually were navigating separation with some honesty and dignity and then somewhere in that timeframe she decided to turn hard against me. This is about the time I think she found a new lover that she’s been keeping a secret from me but it was to figure it out. It got brutal now and I have no trust in her because I see her making terribly untrustworthy choices and it’s ugly. It’s like my STBW had a body snatch. She went from navigating as we were two people going their separate ways who couldn’t make the marriage work, to someone who sees me as an ogre that she had to survive and luckily escaped from. It’s awful and heartbreaking. I tried so hard and now I’ve been cast as the villain in her story. So much for our dignified end of our marriage.