So I am 1 month into a pretty contested divorce after 16 years of marriage. We live in Michigan, I am a disabled veteran and have some issues with my brain that give me migraines a few days a week. We have a 5 year old son. Since we've owned our home, my wife has had a family member living with us and for a couple of years, had two living with us. Currently it is just one. Long story short, I found out she was cheating on me, filed and now we are fighting over our kid. She expects me to only see him every other weekend, I am fighting for 50/50 and will not accept anything less.

They are more or less trying to silver bullet me, without any physical accusations. I did see it coming and since this has happened have been logging everything I do, for my kid, for my stbxw, etc. I've been conducting myself as a gentleman. Michigan is a one party consent state and I have been recording every single interaction I have with anyone in the house, even if its just me and my kid.

My stbxw and her family members are planning on all making statements and saying a few things. They put down on their response that I am an unfit parent. I am not worried about this at all. It is so far from the truth and is easily disproven. They are also going to try and use my health against me, saying that I have migraine days and can't take care of my kid. Also easily disproven. Since this has happened, I have had a ton of migraine days and have a logs showing I do even more than she does for our kid, by a large margin. Lastly, they are going to try and paint me as a monster, saying I mentally abused my wife, that I yell all the time. This is simply not true. I have never been physical with my wife or my kid. I've never even spanked my kid or yelled at him. My stbxw is bipolar and has been mentally unstable since I met her. I have her on recording admitting to being physical with me many times in the past.

We have talked about custody a few times. She will not budge. It is clear as day they are trying to silver bullet me in a way, smear me in court in hopes that she gets primary custody because it means more child support. I've been thinking of ways to combat against it and had a breakthrough today. I realized that when we talk about it, she never says anything about my health, my fitness as a parent or anything about me yelling or being a monster, because she knows it isn't true. We sat down today and really got into things. She said she is willing to let me do whatever during the week and weekend, take him whenever, she doesn't care when I see him or what we do. but her demand is that he sleeps at her house every night. She said it many times. It's a lot more in depth than that but that is the jidst. She told me she isn't budging, meaning if I don't accept, they are going to go to court and smear me.

I feel like this is kind of big, as the whole unfit parent thing is easily disproven, and when it is I feel like her credibility will take a hit. But if they go to court and say the reason she doesn't want me to see my kid is my health, me being unfit as a parent and that I yell all the time or whatever and I have this recording of her saying something completely different, that she doesn't care when I see him or what we do, as long as he is at her home for overnights, that a judge would have to be deaf and blind to not see what is really going on. So did I do it? Is this the evidence I needed to defend myself against these false claims? Is there anything else I could do?