So me and my wife have been going through it I want to reconcile she doesn’t. I of course I’m always holding onto hope that somehow this will change….We have a child with special-needs who really needs a 2 parent household. But not at the expense of my dignity and self-respect. I feel like we both have things that we’ve done wrong in our marriage that have led us to this point and I try to take ownership and accountability for my contribution to it, but she refuses to accept any of the blame. She doesn’t see any fault in herself or her personality, I think she is covert narcissist but I’m no therapist. She runs her own small business right now with her family….She is a very hard worker….She wasn’t able to keep a traditional job because of her personality. Even with family, when she first started they didn’t even wanna work with her, her own parents wanted to fire her. She works upwards of 80 hours a week. She leaves early home late, sometimes weekends sometimes stays at hotels. When she asked for the divorce and said she wants to date other people her terms were we’d do 50-50 custody…..My debt is my debt her debt is her debt. We’ve pretty much kept our finances separate for the past few years except that I paid for most of the bills the home maintenance and I work from home so I take care of my son pretty much 24-7 at least 90-95% of the time he is with me. She is pushing to get it done quick which makes it sus. A man hears 50/50 and that sounds like a bargain (the peaceful)…. so many horror stories out there… but would I benefit of us getting all the cards on the table and just lawyer up (the hostile) her business would be considered marital asset, the house I have paid into to improve and maintain is in a trust through her family for my son so I’m sure I get squat….and custody sure feels like it would favor me but everyone probably thinks that. My head says hostile my heart says peaceful…I think my heart is biased.