Divorce Realization: It's OK to think about the Roman Empire daily after all

SpacemanLost · 2023-11-04T17:38:57+00:00

What are the chances that a woman you live with for YEARS would get every single international crisis WRONG. It's impossible by random chance right?

They are greater than zero. My ex was like yours in much of the way you just described.

I think what you described is due to a combination of socialization, culture and even biology. But before going there, we do need a '"Not all Women" and "Also some men" disclaimer on it. This is a 'take a huge sample population and put them in a distribution and see where the curve peaks at' sort of explanation.

Through a combination of inclination, upbringing, education and expectations from culture.. you could almost say expected 'gender roles', Men on average are more concerned with understanding, and dealing with, the outside world at large, and have to interact with it more. Women, due to all that plus being the ones to birth and raise kids, and manage the home so to speak, aren't expected to have to concern themselves with the greater world as much.

Combine that with a lower standard of accountability, acceptance to be more emotionally driven and having more pockets of free time in the day to fill (think how what used be 'watch soap operas' has become 'scroll on your phone') and they don't have a need to 'get it right' when it comes to understand things far removed from them.

I know it's a squishy description that requires you to think about it. Perhaps summarizing it as a statistically generalized 'men have more need to have a clear and accurate understanding of the greater world at a distance from them because they have to deal with it, and the consequences of it. And women have more need to deal with the interpersonal interactions and emotions of those immediately around them'

AirSailer · 2023-11-04T20:33:11+00:00

My ex was the same way. When Trump was elected all of a sudden she was an expert in election law and international relations AND she became an ultra-feminist who (literally) thinks all the world's problems are caused by white men. She was emphatic that Trump would get us into a nuclear war with North Korea and would literally frame and hang anti-Trump articles from the New York Times. Of course when I complained I was called a Republican (I legit have never voted for a Republican) or a right-winger, she even drunkenly called me a white supremacist once in front of a black coworker at a restaurant.

After our kid started kindergarten she refused to work for years, while spending like we were a two-imcome household, them she wanted to start volunteering for a national Democratic Senate candidate.

I can't believe I was married to somebody like that, holy shit did I have poor judgement back then.

Duchat · 2023-11-05T03:20:27+00:00

I just watched a video (on Reddit) of a man at a gas station try to fill his tires with a fire extinguisher. Just for a moment he pointed the nozzle at his face, but somehow didn’t pull the trigger. However he then put the nozzle on his tire valve, and the ensuing dry fire extinguishing material plumed up everywhere, and he seemed surprised.

I doubt that guy ever contemplates the virtues of Julius Caesar over Augustus.

cactuscharlie · 2023-11-05T20:39:32+00:00

It's the part where my wife found my interest in human history attractive. And then one day she didn't.

One minute I was "smart". The next was "you waste your time dealing with politics".

We live in an age where women as a commodity are more important than men. Just on a DEI level.

To me, this should be offensive to all women. Or at the very least a discussion. My wife basically agreed with my "politics" but now uses them as a talking point for why she dumped me.

Ugh.

Title	Divorce Realization: It's OK to think about the Roman Empire daily after all
Author	techrmd3
Upvotes	10
Comments	4
Date	November 4, 2023 4:41 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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