Edit: Apologies, meant to write more than just the title and didn’t post it before I went to sleep. Whoops.

As the title implies I’m divorcing a serial cheater, I found out my wife was working as a prostitute behind my back a couple years ago. This coincided with the Covid lockdowns so I decided to stay and try and make things work and was worried about the safety of my family and kid when the pandemic first started.

Here we are two years later and I finally have the means to divorce. I’ve already filed and am trying to get this divorce over as smoothly as possible. She has textbook BPD and narcissistic traits and is making it hell.

She’s filed all kinds of false allegations against me, that I beat her, verbally abusive etc. which is pure fantasy. However, it’s on court documents that she’s said that so a judge will see it.

I haven’t brought up her activities as a prostitute and some other things she’s done, and have been saving that for the right time. I’ve got a hearing coming up discussing child custody and am really on the fence about letting all of that loose.

My attorney advised we try and keep that off the table for as long as possible and seek an agreeable settlement. I’m unsure what to do because I feel that info could certainly sway a judge in my favor, but don’t need her getting entrenched and making this process a dumpster fire and costing exponentially more.

Anybody else been in a similar situation and have any advice? She wants the house, my car, alimony, child support and basically EVERYTHING. I’m just trying to get this over so I can move on and split things as 50/50 as possible.