Long post warning- sorry.

Hey everyone. Been a little bit since I posted. Just looking for a bit of advice going forward. Smallish update my wife and son have been found, they she took him and ran to SAFE. So I know where they are, thankfully. My son has a GAL and I was able to get an ex parte hearing on temp custody. Nothing great but I have every other weekend until the official trial date. I was able to avoid the DV claims so far, as she is claiming I abused our son. Judge was going to dismiss but allowed it to be withdrawn. Somehow the judge litigating our case is that same judge. She has zero proof and my son is of the age and mental maturity to tell everyone that its not true. She is diagnosed Bipolar, and this isnt the first time she has completely gone off and tried to destroy the family. Shes cut her side off in its entirety. Keeps claiming I cheated all that fun stuff.

Anyway. I am torn as to how to proceed in the upcoming trial. I do have a lawyer, and he seems like a pretty good one. We are all waiting on the wife to find legal council. Not sure where that's all at, shes going to most likely get a public lawyer through social services. It's been almost a month and social services hasn't bothered to open a case to even investigate the accusations. She has been almost zero contact this whole time other than drop off and pickup at my supervised visitation. Which were whatever. Threw some nasty comments in when I dropped my son off. So whatever. I have no means whatsoever to contact her. Have no real idea of her intentions. We had discussed a separation, but then she just flew off the handle and ran with my son.

I've had the same job last 5 years, and I make decent money working hybrid. Nothing remarkable. Only assets I have are my two cars and a smallish 401k. only been building it for 5 years. I am able to support myself and our current rental. Sounds like she may be trying to get an actual job, she has been through 4 in the past 6 months and as best I know is currently unemployed. Son told me if asked he would feel much safe and rather live with me. Just waiting on the GAL to actually sit down and speak with him. Son told me she is trying to get a house near the SAFE house. See where that goes...

Any thoughts or advice from those of you that have been through this. What type of custody arrangements, alimony, spousal support can I expect. It seems shes going for something similar to 90-10, but that's on the grounds of the abuse accusations which got shut down pretty hard at the ex parte. Which I initiated, and was granted on the grounds of her mental situation within two weeks of their disappearance. I am thinking something in the vein of 60-40 with myself retaining physical custody. She has already made it fairly apparent that co-parenting will be very difficult. So 50-50 may prove problematic. I have some people telling me that's probably the best I can get being the man in the situation. I honestly don't care whatsoever about assets or spousal support or any of that. I just want my son back, and not hiding in some social services safe house with his triggered and crazy mom. I really don't wish her any ill will, and don't want to separate my wife from her son. It's strange I feel like I should hate her for all this, but I truly believe it's the Bi-polar taking over. Part of me even wants to reconcile. She scoffed at that idea at the ex parte. Anyway, any advice would be greatly appreciated.